This past weekend we went on a camping trip... It was myself, my husband, my best friend, her boyfriend and his best friend which so happens to be my old flame. I found out today that he still has feelings for me and thinks I deserve better. In a sad sad sad way I want him back to, but I love my husband more than anything so I would never do anything to hurt him. So question is what do I do and do I tell my husband about my new info??
2006-06-06 06:52:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, your a married women and he has absolutely NO right in NO way of getting between you and your husband. He should respect you and he should respect your marriage. Why did you marry your husband in the first place? Becuz you loved him! Do not bring your past to your future. Whatever happend, happend. Let it go. Do not hurt your husband and your marriage. And who is he to say that you deserve better? If you felt like you deserved better than you wouldnt marry him in the first place! Dont talk to him, and dont let him change how you feel about your husband. But honesty is very important in a relatioship. Especially a marriage. An old flame is an old flame, theres a reason why you guys are not together, and there was a reason why its an old flame. Your a married women, and he should mind his own life, and not try to tear up a family. Dont talk to him, he will try to steal you away from your husband. Recindle your love and romance with your husband and you will see that your "old Flame" is nothing, compared to your marrriage. Cherish your marriage. Marriage is a very sacred bond, and a lot of people dont understand that. Cherish your marriage and love your husband like there is no tomorrow. And spend more time with him. And if your "old flame" keeps on being in the way, and if he doesnt understand that your married, than you need to tell your husband to beat the s h i t of him. Becuz if your husband doesnt know, than your ex is gonna think he has a bigger chance of getting you back. But you gotta let him now that your husbad is your life, and you wouldnt change him for NOTHING.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-06 06:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u need to evaluate why u might have still have feelings for your old flame and rememeber why the two of u didnt work out originally. If your husband is lacking something then make an effort to let him know and work to fill the gap. If your feelings for this old flame are most lust than love than u need to run away from this guy to keep u making a huge mistake. If u think u still love this guy than u may have some serious choices to make. I wouldnt tell your husband is u plan on avoiding this guy, but if u cant then u need to tell him and hope he is understanding guy.
2006-06-06 14:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by G-Money26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dapper Dan. By telling your husband, it will only cause him to worry and become upset. What was the reason you and your old flame didn't work out? It was totally wrong for your old flame to tell you that you deserve better. How would he know? I think your old flame is just trying to start trouble between you and your husband since he still has feelings for you.
2006-06-06 13:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want your marriage to be a success don't tell anything either to your husband or your old flame.u have a loving husband.be happy with him .seeing your old flame after a long time has brought the last memories. it will go away soon. try not to be too friendly with the other guy.husbands (well almost all )are selfish. the moment he comes to know about your feelings towards the other guy ,he will start doubting you.your happy life will be at stake. u don't even know whether the other guy might be just bluffing. he might be having his own flings somewhere.
2006-06-06 14:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved you husband there would be no question to ask here. You need to figure out why you want the other guy back, is it a nostalgia thing, wanting to feel young again, do you not love your husband? Answer these questions. I would never trade my wife for any of my ex's, thay are ex's for a reason, and my wife is my wife for an even better reason.
2006-06-06 14:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, no point in causing your husband the stress, you don't do anything, if the guy manages to corner you about it you simply tell him you are married and thats the end of the discussion. this is exactly why old flames should be excluded from family activities, well from your life, things like this happen all the time when two people who have previously been involved in a romantic relationship continue or re-establish contact.
2006-06-06 13:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband, he has the right to know if another man is trying to take his wife away. If you try and hide it, when you get busted you run the risk of losing your husband.
One thing to remeber is ex's always have a way of sneaking into a gals life when she has everything that she has always wanted. Are you happy with your husband and marriage? If you are don't let your ex get in the way of that, guys always want what they can't have and the fact that you are married makes you something that he can't have anymore. Hang in there and have faith in your husband.
2006-06-06 14:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by brandy82804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything.
If you love him more than anything, you answered yourself right there.
There is nothing greater in a relationship besides open, honest communication. It will only make the bond you have stronger.
As far as this other guy is concerned, forget him. Of course he thinks you could do better, (and he thinks HE is better for you) he is jealous, that's all.
Good luck
2006-06-06 14:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in a marriage both will always have "temptations" like this, but we always have a choice to say "yes" or "no" to that "temptation", and if you really love your husband, your love will be stronger to let go what you would like to have again (but that you know that is wrong!)... Don't ruin what you have with your husband! And I'm sure this is not going to be the last "temptation" you'll have... and I'm sure your husband will have it also sometime (s) in his life... so, Good Luck! and be wise! :D
2006-06-06 17:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell you husband. There is no reason to get him all upset over something that may not even be true. Blow it off and move on. Im sure you and your husband have a great life and you dont want to mess it up over something so silly.
2006-06-06 14:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋