I had several affairs....should I leave or stay?

Question

I'm military and my husband is not. I have had several affairs within the last 5 years (especially when I have military duty). He's a good man and we have a daughter. I want him back.....what do I do?

Answer 1

It's a little late for that , don't you think? We both know, if he forgives you, you will cheat on him again. How much abuse do you want this man to endure? Several???? Come on now . I am not trying to be mean, but you are going to have to stop having affairs, or you will NEVER have, and keep, a man that truly loves you, as is a "GOOD" man. Would you alllow him to have "SEVERAL" affairs and act like nothing happened?......NO! Good Luck!!

Answer 2

You should leave. You're not worthy to be called his wife. You belong to the dogs in the NCO club for their sexual pleasure. Don't give your husband STD by going back to him, you said he's a good man. Stay away and get lost! Do what you do best and you'll probably make more money if you pick to be stationed in Korea where spouses can't take their families. Men then are hungry for sex and extra marital affairs to which you certainly have good credentials already.

Answer 3

I'm not even answering this quesiton. I am a female in the military also. (My husband is also in the military) We have no problem staying faithful even though we've been through 2 deployments, more field problems than I can count and all sorts of different schedules. We are both active duty. You should be ashamed of yourself because it is immature b****es like YOU who make the rest of the females in the military look bad. I hope your husband leaves you and takes your kid and you never see either of them again ~ you deserve it!

Answer 4

If you have had several affairs then seek counseling and help for this but if you want you marriage to work then you need to be commited to your husband you are with now and change you lifestyle and stay true to him. If you want him back then get help and change and prove to him that you have changed. If he does not want to take you back then understand and move on and to even make this marriage start to work again then seek marriage counseling and help!

Answer 5

If you want to continue to have affairs, you should leave. Obviously, you're not marriage material.

You need to think about how much your husband and daughter mean to you. That in itself should keep you from having any future affairs.

Answer 6

1) Get some help! Damn!! ((God forbid if a man have done it,every woman from within 100 radius would have demanded his sac be thrown in a meat grinder!!))
2) Tell your man the truth!!
3) If he chooses to stay and endure, you better work your *** off to make your marriage work. (trust issues!!)
4) If he want's to leave you, leave him be and move on. He deserves to be happy and you obviously are not going to do that!!

Answer 7

I think that you have to honestly ask yourself why you are having these affairs. Is something missing at home or do you resent being married or tied down? Or do you want any of these men you are having affairs with? Once you answer these tough questions, you can go forward with your answer.

Answer 8

Hey u need to do your husband one final favor and leave. I dont the guy but any honest guy can do a lot better. U need to be single and try not impart any of your morals or lack their of on your daughter.

Answer 9

NOT CHEAT, oh wait you already fudged that up. If you love someone you don't cheat. If you cheat but think you love someone it's becasue you are greedy and only want to fulfill you own selfish needs. You husband should know the truth, then it's up to him to decide if you stay or go.

Answer 10

first you need to figure out why you keep having affairs and fix that problem. Or history will just repeat itself.