My boyfriend is thinking seriously about buying a house 6 hours south of where we live now in. He wants me to move with him. The house will be ready in 3 months.We have known each other for 2 years and have been in a serious relantionship for a month. Actually unseparable. We are totally happy and compatible. His family totally wants us to get married, etc...But, I write this just to hear unbiased opions.
2006-06-06 06:48:57 · 28 answers · asked by girlygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi girlygirl! This sounds to me like a great opportunity for the two of you. If you truly love him and feel you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then go! About 2 years ago, I moved with my boyfriend from Mississippi to Louisiana and I like it here. (5 hours apart). The main drawback is that I really miss my family and friends. Somedays, It's a little lonely. My fiance is my best friend and I am so grateful God put him in my life but sometimes, it would be so great to just visit with my friends back home! I mean, I know some people here but noone compares to my true friends, you know? Just take that into consideration. I wish you the best of everything and I think it would be good for you to move and start a new life together, if you feel in your heart that it's the right thing. Not sure of what your beliefs are but I would turn this over to God and pray about it and allow Him to lead you in the right direction. Everything will work out for the best. Good luck my friend!
2006-06-06 06:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand the need for an unbiased answer. If in 3 months (when the house is ready) you still feel the same, and feel you can trust him then go ahead and move in,You have known each other 2 years so hopefully there will not be any surprises as far as his lifestyle(like finding out he wears womans clothes). I say go for it...... And start planning that wedding now because it takes a while to plan and get the money for.
2006-06-06 06:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not? If you both feel strongly about each other, i see no reason why you cant try it out. I would say wait on the marriage until after you move together- this way you can see how you would match up/get along if you actually lived together. a lot of people make the mistake of getting married before living together, and it turns out to be a huge flop because you havent really experienced life together in that way.
2006-06-06 06:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF you are totally happy, then wait the 3 months, if all is well, get married. Do not move in with him, for that is as far as you will get with this romance. IF he is not willing to marry you, he is still looking. Time will tell. Don't be a fool, no one buys the cow when the milk is free! Good luck
2006-06-06 06:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let his parents or him push you into anything you don't want to do. Moving in with someone is a serious step, and uprooting yourself for someone else is even bigger. See how things go for awhile. although you have known him for two years, living with someone is entirely different because you see them all the time and have to share expenses and space with them, AND you see all the gross things they do when they are at home (ex: His REAL cleaning and hygiene habits not just what he shows you, I clean my house for company, but don't worry too much when it's just me) I wouldn't get married first because if you do that, then move in and are miserable, you have to go through a divorce.
2006-06-06 08:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by violet1656 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say just make sure you love each other before you live so far from your home. You will be missing it, and I assume your friends and family from the area. Is he worth it? And on the marriage thing, I won't let anybody pressure you into getting married, only if you want to.
2006-06-06 06:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should follow whatever ur first instinct was. Don't do things based on others people opinions ur life is the judegement of living in which u choice the love of ur life. Take this serious and take some time away from him to see how u really feel about the situation but don't take all the time u spend away from him thinkng about him. Please consider my suggestion.
2006-06-06 06:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Re15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not move with him it sounds like you guys all ready live with each other. Why take a step back if you really love him. If you don't he could take it totally the wrong way and be hurt if you don't. Go for it and good luck
2006-06-06 06:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a major commitment. Why not just get married in three to six months?
(His family gave me $20 to say that, but I would have said it for free.)
2006-06-06 06:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married to him first. You have 3 months to plan your wedding.
2006-06-06 06:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋