Alrightyyy where to start..
I used to work at this pizza joint and got to know the employees that also work there.. Theyre great people and my bestfriend as well got to know them. More recently shes started to 'get to know' the delievery guy (lol shhh..) and hes a really nice guy and all, the problem is, is that he's 10 years older than her and I. actually thats not really the problem, the problem is that shes immature and so is he, but he is in his 20's and can be mature and im sure he wants someone who is more mature and intelligent (not saying my friend is stupid, but its the age thing..) and when i try and make her see that and tell her "listen, hes older and this may not work out", she flips out! Her and him have kinda been on and off for a couple of months now, and everytime he says something along the lines of "lets just get to know eachother for now, just be friends" she goes into this downward spiral of emotions,then it starts with the "do you think i can make him jealous?"
2006-06-06 06:47:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really dont think thats the way to go about it myself.. she says she really likes him but shes hell bent on making him jealous when he tells her 'lets just be friends' Personally i think he wants her just for something, affection maybe, not as in a actual relationship, but i cant try and talk to her about it! Ive seen her hurt sooo many times and i dont want this one to end like all the rest did..
Help!! how can i get through to my friend?
i want to talk to the guy but cant think of what to say without scaring him off.. any suggestions??!!
greatly appreciated! Thanks!
2006-06-06 06:50:15 · update #1
Well you've gotta a major challenge on hand...Talk to her, frankly, you've got to be the tough one...Also talk to the guy and let him know whats happening and what your feelings about the whole thing is.(that's if he's approachable) Then jump in and ask her to really and rationally think it through...Ask your friend to put down the pros and cons and if she thinks that she is really mature to handle this relationship. (ITs gonna be tough) Let her know that jealousy will make a guy leave so that tantrum won't work either. Tell her - let him go and if he was really meant to be with her - he will come back to her, BUT, you've gotta prepare for alot of crying and tings like that...But let her know that you also aint ready nor prepared for her hooking up with the guy. After all - I'm sure you have some say???
2006-06-06 06:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by du boiz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like she's 13 or 12...if she messing around with somone that is 20 and his 10 years apart...that something she needs to watch out...You should let her know that she's actting sooo very inmature...No guy wants to be with a girl that cant understand " lets just be friends"...she might get anoying to him...and at the end he's not gonna want anything to do with her...maybe try to help her take the focus off of him...introduce her to new people of your age... the last thing you want is for her to REALLY get her heart broken... tryign to make a man jelouse is the most inmature thing in the world... when you want someone back making him jelouse will only make you look like a slut who ..a girl who "says she really likes him...but then again is flirting with other guys"...what kind of thing is that. It will only make her look wrong...and he might get tired of that.
2006-06-06 07:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by yeah yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so I don't see what your question is but I'll be cold an logical about it. You and your friend are around 16-19 years old and he is 26-29 and having sex with your friend. He is in it for the sex, nothing long term will come of this. He likely has something serious going on with someone his own age outside of the lame pizza delivery gig. Deal.
2006-06-06 06:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Roblem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a hard situation that u r in. i know u want to protect ur friend and sometimes friend just don't wanna listen and think they know everything (a lot like with parents). she knows that u don't approve of the relationship because u think she is not ready. i say, just let her deal with it by herself and just make sure u watch out for her. yeah, she'll probably get hurt, and that's when u'll be there for her. maybe u can try talking to the guy, if u think it is appropriate and tell him that u don't think this is a good idea.
good luck
2006-06-06 06:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend sounds young...the age difference because she is young, is terrible...sounds like he knows it and wants in one way to stop but on the otherhand wants to PLAY!!!! If that's the case...annonymously report him...
2006-06-06 06:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by vickififi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please let them be!!! obviously she has to learn the hard way.... you can not force your opinions on her cause she seems very emotionally attached so just let it ride out.. it may be a phase. she'll either grow out of it or into it.. either way it is a learning experience.
2006-06-06 06:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by rerun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur retardded as hell.... ur basically pal. wtf is incorrect with hvng an older pal? i can hav a ninety year previous pal and noone will gv a shhit.. if u have been in a relatinship it wud be a diff tale.
2016-12-08 07:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step away from the dysfunctional couple...STEP AWAY!!!
2006-06-06 06:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋