why do people judge u on how u look?

Question

i have this friend and people make fun of her just couse tha way she looks i dont think that, that is nice i think if that person is nice than you should be nice to them back!!!!!!!!what do u think my friend would like some help on what to do can you help her

Answer 1

People are shallow, and unfortunately they usually go on someone's looks. As hard as it may be, she should try not to let this get her down. She should exhibit confidence in the knowledge that she is a good person and hopefully this will shine through to others.

Answer 2

You expect people to be nice because you are nice , now that is a novel idea you have. Does that mean that if you are mean then they should be mean back to you. I think the sooner you realize in the real world people are who they are and not what you want them to be the better off you and your friend will be.It is a cruel world to say the least and you need to accept that you alone can not change what people were taught by their parents.You might try and remember this lesson and the next time you see someone shooting someone else think and say to yourself I bet he is a nice person and he is just doing that because the other person was mean to him.

Answer 3

You are right, people should not be judged on their looks at all. People who do that are insecure about themself and feel "bigger" when they cut someone else down.
You can help her a lot more than I can because you are her friend and are there with her. Don't be "pushy" about it, but maybe you could show her a new hairstyle you think might look good on her. You could show her ways to put on makeup. Maybe polish your nails together. Make a "girls" day of it and have fun with together.
Showing her that someone cares will make a world of difference to her self-esteem. It sounds that is what needs a boost.

Answer 4

people are cruel. i remember when i was in high school people were my freind when they felt like it. and when they didnt man i felt like crap. i would try to be just like them and do it to other people. if i could go back i would and change everything. i think that your friend and you should ask if you can have a conference with the whole grade. bring them all together and just talk to them. tell them how you feel. and let them tell you how they feel. you will get a lot of info. do it soon before your friend does what i did. i moved to a smaller school.

Answer 5

tell your friend with time your outer appearance will change,but her heart will remain the same.So she can ignore those peoples and be what she really is.And one day that special person will see her for who she really is and not a fake. With makeup,nice clothes,these that make you up.Not things that show you up to be the real you.

Answer 6

b/c you have to feel some way about a person when you first meet them the problem is usally people never change there mind after they get to knwo some one or won't get to know some one b/c of the way they look

Answer 7

Confidence is the key to how you look. I find that good looking people with low self esteem are not as attractive as ugly people who have plenty of self esteem.

Answer 8

yes tell her that they are not her friends and if some one judges you for what you look like then they have a problem with themselve i am in a wheel chair so i have the same problem with people judging me for my problems

Answer 9

Fear!!! They are so afraid that their insecurities will be seen if they don't single out someone elses first.Lead by example. Show them how to treat others as you want to be treated.Speak out!! Peace.

Answer 10

people are just shallow

I think it's stupid how people judge others just by how they look. Doesn't anyone care about the person inside?