None supportive, constant use of abusive speech to the children and myself and say that they can't love me as a wife
2006-06-06 06:45:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you for all your positive response and pray that I get a suitable accomodation within the last month
Thank you
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2006-06-07 01:37:24 · update #1
thank you for all your positive response and pray that I get a suitable accomodation within the next month
Thank you
smalls
2006-06-07 01:38:21 · update #2
Its not your fault....just get out before something bad happens...or worse. You will find a better man in time......and you should never ever blame yourself for his behavior!!
2006-06-06 06:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too left an abusive relationship of ten years. I have four children none of which were his, thank goodness. When I left I was terrified. A few weeks later after I settled in I felt a wave of WOW independence. I no longer had to "check in" with anyone or account for my every move. Later, about six months, I started asking myself questions...like...what if? What if I had tried harder, done things differently...those kind of questions. Let me tell you....no matter how guilty you feel about leaving, try to deal with that guilt and get over it. I know from experience that if you let the guilt over ride you, you will set yourself up for a setback! Leaving is the right thing to do and you know it...so stick with it! Good luck to you! My heart goes out to you!
2006-06-06 06:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not feel guilty. But I know you will feel guilty at first because you will look at this as a failure. But sweetie, you did not fail, he did. I know how you feel, I was in a situation just like that and I left. And if he could not love you as a wife, why did he marry you. He needs some serious help. Good luck to you and the children.
2006-06-06 06:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not right, if you feel that you are not safe in that relationship, than you need to leave and fast, for you own protection and for your childrens. If you are scared of your husbad/boyfriend, than there is something seriouse wrong with that relationship. Those type of men dont change. And you dont need to feel guilty, hes not treating you right and he might seriously hurt you in a pysical way. So you need to get out. He should be the one feeling guilty becuz he should love you and not control you. Love is not controlling. Good luck to you.
2006-06-06 06:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship breaks down, even a bad one, there are all kinds of emotions. You may feel guilt, grief and self doubt one minute and freedom and relief the next.
You have not said anything about physical abuse so I assume you are not in fear of violence - if this is the case, seek professional advise. However, if you are being physically threatened get out now.
2006-06-06 07:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by nonobadpony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never understand why anyone would put up with that crap in the 1st place. Think long and hard is it fair to let your children be with someone like that? I don't think so not to mention yourself? Your a human being you are someone and trust me there is someone out there that will treat you and your kids they way you deserve to be treated, the only thing you have to feel guilty about is not leaving sooner and tell him to shove it!
2006-06-06 06:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by chemicalbrothers13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have proven that abusers use the same tactics as brainwashers do. You are feeling guilt because of the years of things he has said to you. His negative comments, blaming you for things that you are not responsible for, etc. Replace those guilty thoughts with positive comments about yourself.
2006-06-06 12:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nt feel guilty about this at all. You are a survivor so move on and get the help and counseling you need to heal and move on with your life. Who says they cannot love you as a wife? This is not fair to say about you at all. If you ever need to talk me and my wife are here for you . You need to realize who you are in Christ and you need to heal and move on!
2006-06-06 06:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't feel guilty at all, you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to leave and for being a good mom. your kids are learning wht love and relationships look like and if that is not what you want them to learn you have to get them out of there. good luck to you, and congratulations!
2006-06-06 07:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you have no reason to feel guilty. you tried to work it out he needs help. you need to think of the kids. it can affect them mentally. its time to get your life straight do whats best for the children and yourself. good luck!
2006-06-06 06:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by velvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋