Why do people think that being GAY is a choice?

Answer 1

People who think being gay is a choice must think that they have the ability to choose to be gay or straight...which makes them bisexual. They are outing themselves when they say being gay is a choice.

Answer 2

Good question. Why do people think that being gay is a choice? SImple, you see, some hetrosexual don't understand gay people and that they are born gay, so they think you choose to be gay. Also some people are homophobic and use that as an excuse to be rude and crude to gay people. If more straight people were educated, then maybe we could be a more closer to our fellow man. Some people need time to understand, some peole may never understand, but the one thing I'm sure of is, everyone is entitled to there own opinion.

Answer 3

Why do people think that being a jerk who cuts you off on the highway and then slams on the brakes in front of you is a choice? That is just someones "driving orientation."

Why do people think that wanting to have sex with children is a choice?

Why do people think that being a murderer is a choice?

Why do people think that being a member of Al-Quieda is a choice?

Answer 4

because God did not make you gay it is a choice, just as having sex with animals. Men where created to be with woman and woman to be with man. God said to leave your mother and cleave on to your wife not man cleave on to your husband.

studies has shown that at times people choose to be gay because they are not being accepted by the opposite sex or they were sexually abused and surpresses it but show it through their sexuality. Some chose to be guy by simply experimenting. It is a choice anyway you look at it. Just like eating only veggies and not eating meat.

Answer 5

Ignorance.

Every form of scientific research indicates that homosexuality is inborn, whether for genetic or chemo-genetic reasons. Homosexuality is sexual attraction to the same sex to the exclusion of the opposite sex.

Homosexuality is as natural as any other form of sexuality. The traditional natural law argument maintained that homosexuality did not exist in nature, and therefore was unnatural and chosen by individuals. Now we know that to be totally false. Decades long indepth studies have revealed that in fact homosexuality exists in all of the hundreds of species studied; furthermore, among those with pair bonding, homosexual pair bonds occur to the exclusion of any heterosexual mating. The seminal study in this field is by Dr. Bruce Bagemihl and is titled "Biological Exuberance" it is published by St. Martin's Press and may be available to purchase online used.

Of course there are other equally ridiculous anti-gay arguments:

The argument that it is communicable -- one of the traditional anti-gay arguments -- is demonstrably false. People may deal with their sexuality later in life, but sexual attraction to same sex members combined with a total lack of sexual attraction to opposite sexed members cannot be spread from one person to the other.

Traditionally (pre 1970s) psychology treated homosexuality as a pathology (disease) and attempted, though admittedly without success, to "cure" it -- that changed in the 1970s, partially as a result of political action, but mostly as a result of a series of studies that convinced most psychologists that homosexuality was, whatever else it might be, neither a disease nor curable. Hundreds of peer reviewed studies since then have supported the progressive conclusion of the 1970's psychologists and psychiatrists.

Today we have a movement that claims it can cure homosexuality. Some of what it uses is pop psychology, most of what it uses is religious. The reality is, now being established by study after study, despite bitter opposition from the practicioners to any studies being performed; that it doesn't, and in fact can't change anyone at all.

That is not to say that a gay person can't pretend to be straight. Can't marry a woman, presuming that we are talking about a male (which will ill serve the woman, because real attraction will never be there) and can't father children. The whole process of living a secret life of one night stands and hidden trysts while pretending to be straight is the very closet from which gay people are escaping. It doesn't change what you are -- only lets the bigots feel more comfortable that you are "like everyone else," at the cost of your self-worth, dignity, and character -- and most of your female partner's dignity as well. To be in the closet is not to be straight, it is to be unhappy, perhaps even more unhappy than being celibate. It is also not to say that a gay person can't decide to live without sex, anyone can do that. A gay person however is a gay person; and cannot be anything else, not because of pathology, which has been rejected now for over 40 years by the doctors that study homosexuality, but because it is what is natural to him or her.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org

PS To the gentleman who said that you had to live 10-14 years before you thought about sex. I knew that I was attracted to males at 8 -- I didn't know it was sexual, but I knew it was special and much different from what I felt toward girls -- which is little if any different from what an 8 year old heterosexual boy would have felt -- except that it was same gender directed.

Answer 6

I don't know......

I don't undestand that at all.... most of the people that think that are so strait they could never even consider being gay as an option.... so how on earth could they think being gay is a choice, if it was then thats saying they could deside one day they like girls/guys and blam be gay......

Answer 7

it is choice. You can not be born gay. You live at least 10 to14 yrs before you even start to think about sex. By then you might think you are gay and act on it. But its a choice.

My roomate is gay (lesbian). if you ask me, she is just confused she wants to act like a boy, but she has all these feminine feelings that she can't escape.

Answer 8

There is a difference between thinking the thoughts in
the inner recesses of your hearts desire,and
acting upon what you have thought.

Having thoughts are based on your conditioning,
what your actions are is often determined by
your environment!

Both thoughts and actions are choices that are either
rewarded or punished by the environment you choose to
live in, which is why so many disgraced priest's move to
N.Y. or S.F, or L.A.

Answer 9

some guys are born more girly but that doesnt mean they have to be gay .also when your born you dont know any thing about sex/so its a choice

Answer 10

They don't want to believe the alternative, because then (GASP!) it could happen to THEM! Or to their family! Or horror of horrors, their first-born SON!

If their darling offspring CHOOSES to be gay, then at least there's a good chance that some good 'ol fire, brimstone and whuppin' will beat that devil out of them.