i have tons of people come up to me because im wearing black and say are you gothic? im not gothic if i wear 1 black top and some black sweats and if i wear abercrombie the next day they call me a poser. im so mad at people and i dont understand why they do that...
2006-06-06 06:39:57 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet
ohhh it might be the age of the people involved.... or not... but some people just love to Pre-judge others and classify them..which is silly... your tastes are eclectic, and that's exactly what I would tell them next time they say something ! its those people that need to classify you most likely because they also classify themselves , since that makes them feel like they belong to a particular group, whether they can say " I'm a punk", "I'm a skater" , "I'm a goth", , "I'm a thug" etc on and on... they have a need to identify and belong to a certain group, where you are a free thinker just being yourself... and dressing how you like depending on your mood , or the day, occasion etc.... you are totally normal, and not stuck in the same rut they are ! so congratulations!
2006-06-06 06:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are often judgmental. I can sympathize with you about the wardrobe issue. Many people will do the same with me. I don't generally wear a lot of black, but I do have some of it in my wardrobe, so when I do wear a black skirt, or a pair of black pants, and a black shirt, then I sometimes do get those kind of stares. I even once had someone ask me if I was in mourning, just because I had on a black skirt, and shirt. And yes, sometimes, your wardrobe can say a lot about who YOU are. but, I just think that sometimes, people should look past that to the REAL you. After all, what you put on for that day could just be a particular mood you are in. It doesn't mean that you ALWAYS dress that way. In the end, I don't really care what people think of me OR what I wear. As long as I am comfortable, then I have no worries in the world. And besides, THEY aren't the ones who are wearing it, so why should they be concerned?
2006-06-06 06:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♫i luv♥♫juicy fruit♥♫gum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to judge a person by what one can see externally then trying to get to know someone. Most people cannot see past their own nose and do not care to take the time and logically thing through a situation - like realizing that there is more to a person than an outfit. It's been my experience that there are a lot of stupid people in the world - but there are also smart people who can wisely realize that it takes more than a judge mental "first impression" to get a feel for a person.
So, ignore them. They're obnoxious. I'm the same way - sweat pants during the day on the weekends then I'm dressed to the nines when I go out. Who cares?!? Do what makes you happy and let those idiots fend for themselves; I assure you, they won't get very far!
2006-06-06 06:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by G_Elisabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason isn't important.
You have a real simple choice; conform or live with people's judgement. If you wear what the average people at your school wear - at mine it was a sport shirt and jeans that weren't too baggy - then people will have to judge you on something besides your clothes. You can't change people. You can change your clothes. You are smarter than the people who judge you on your clothes. Work with it.
Complaining that people think you are a goth when you wear all black is like complaining you got your head wet when you went out in the rain without an umbrella. You know it is going to happen and you did it. Either don't do it or don't complain about it.
If you put on pants 12 sizes too big for you and buckled your belt below your butt, people would think you were trying to be a "gangsta". (At least in my part of the country they would, if you were male.) If you are a lady and stood on the street corner with 8 pounds of makeup, thigh-high patent leather boots with 5" heels and a mini-skirt, people would think you were offering to rent your body. If you were male, over 21 and wore a 3-piece Brooks Brothers suit, people would think you were a laywer or banker.
People make judgements ALL the time on your race, religion, wardrobe, language, sexual orientation, the car you drive, the house you live in, the books you read, the music you like, etc., etc., etc. You aren't going to change them. You can cope with them.
2006-06-06 06:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Fats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be shallow and not take the time to see things in different perspectives. General rule of thumb is that the first impression people will have of someone will be based upon how they see you dress or look. People (in general) don't take time to get to know others prior to making a judement. The only thing you need to worry about is not what they think but what YOU think of yourself. You have to live with yourself till you die, they don't. If you are comfortable with whom you are, then it doesn't matter what they say. Besides, if they are saying the truth, you can't be mad at them for that. And if they are not, then it doesn't matter either since they will be spouting ignorance.
2006-06-06 06:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by wildhair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you wear reflects (unfortunately) something about what you are and how you feel. I mean, a grown man would not go out wearing a school girl skirt...Unless he is insane :) But, I guess the biggest thing is: Who cares what other people think of what you wear? Don't let it get to you, be you and that's all that matters. If they think you're goth one day and a poser the next: Who cares! They suck :)
2006-06-06 06:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by mookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore it true friends know that youre not gothic so it doesnt matter what ppl off the street think just be ur self. if you want to wear all black one day and abercrombie the next do it. its a free country and plus variety is good
2006-06-06 06:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by frogirl15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that we humans do that.
However, just because it bugs you doesn't mean that it's gonna change. My best recommendation is to remember that this is how humans are, and dress with this expectation.
To the rest of us, you are the person that you tell us you are. The way you dress and put yourself together is a message to us, saying "Hi, this is who I am!". If you dress like a slut, we will all assume that you put out easy. If you dress like a business-person, we will all assume you're a professional at work.
Also, find good friends, who don't care what you're wearing, and to heck with everyone else! Let us all think whatever we want - you know who you are on the inside!
2006-06-06 06:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be judged on what you wear, find one style and stick with it. People have a hard time reconciling two different groups as being "part of" the same person.
Just be true to yourself. When you're out of school people will expect you to dress a certain way. Use your time now to develop a sense of style!
2006-06-06 06:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you care what the think, they probably wish they where brave enough to wear something different than What everybody else is wearing.
Once I bought a new pair of shoes and all my Friends sayed eww and the next day they both had the same shoes on.
Wear what you want and don't bother with other peoples opinions.
2006-06-06 06:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋