I have been in a relationship for 6 years and have a child with my boyfriend.. Ten months ago we seperated and he had a one night stand that he failed to tell me about when we got back together. What would you do and why didn't he tell me?
2006-06-06 06:29:54 · 15 answers · asked by flirtygirl25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey dear, how did you find out he had a one night stand? It could have been more, you know. Well what matters now is your mending your relationship and moving forward. 6 years in a relationship is a long time. You have to make up your mind to trust him and settle down to take care of your child. If he did not tell you about the one night stand, then what does it matter. I'm sure telling you will not clean it from his memory. He knows he's guilty so the best you can do is to bring him to discuss it and then forget about the past and move forward, ok?
2006-06-06 06:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Saintpi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't tell you because he cares for you and know it would hurt you. He hopefully regrets it and is now in a place where he realizes the grass is not greener on the other side and is ready to move on with his life together with you. Let it go since you were seperated, but keep a secretive eye on anything suspicious in his life to prevent any future problems.
2006-06-06 13:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by LJC98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i couldn't really say because i don't know your relationship personally but from my own experience if you been together that long y'all should have some kind of trust and communication between the two of you i just recently went through some issues with the guy I'm with and having a one night stand and not telling you is serious because you could of caught anything from that one night he went out if you really like him work on your communication and trust in your relationship
2006-06-06 13:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't tell you cuz he knew you would flip out, which isn't good enough reason. As long as you can trust him I would forgive and forget, you guys were seperated it's not like he acctually cheated. Was the situation he was drunk or some thing lame like that? It's all in your personal opinon but like I said if you can trust him why not try to make things work
2006-06-06 13:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he tell you what he did while you were separated? That is why separation is usually a bad idea because in doing so there is no reason for the parties involved to not look outside of the relationship.
2006-06-06 13:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have issues, you separated, he tried to move and and get on with his life, you are now back together...he didn't want to tell you because it probably meant nothing and has nothing to do with your relationship now or he feared how you may react...his sleepin with someone while you were apart seems to be a smaller issue for why you would separate after 6 years and why after all this time you are not married
2006-06-06 13:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't let him drink from your well , so he got a drink from someone else but the water wasn't the same and he came back to your well. So as long as he's not sipping from both wells at the same time. { remember you two broke up, the commitment was severed }
2006-06-06 13:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he had the one nigt stand after you guys separeted, then theres really nothing you can say, but if oyu love him, and have been with him for so long, why dont you work towards marriage, because then you will make your relationship something more meaningfull , so this one night stand thign doesnt happen again.
2006-06-06 13:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by blue sky 11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave , and try to raise your child with better morals and ethics than daddy has.
things aren't going to get better over time.
save yourself tears and heartache and time, concentrate on getting your child in a more benefical atomsphere
your question should have been how can i protect my child from immature adults who could care less about his/her feelings?
2006-06-06 13:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan Lefaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD NOT CONSIDER IT CHEATING BECAUSE WE WERE NOT TOGETHER. I AM NOT SAYING THAT IT DOES NOT HURT I KNOW THAT IT MADE YOU FEEL REALLY BAD ESPECIALLY BECAUSE HE DID NOT TELL YOU ABOUT IT I THINK IT PROBABLY WOULD HAVE HURT A LITTLE LESS IF HE WOULD HAVE TOLD YOU HIS SELF. I THINK HE DIDNT TELL YOU BECAUSE HE DIDNT WANT TO HURT YOU AND THAT YOU PROBABLY WOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN BACK WITH HIM. JUST TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND TRY TO MOVE ON I KNOW THAT IT WILL BE HARD BUT YOU GUYS WILL GET THROUGH IT. GOOD LUCK
2006-06-06 13:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋