iv'e been with many men before him. some men still call and text, but i never answer or respond. he hates when he's reminded of past boyfriends and partners. he doesnt get mad at me though. is it me or him? what do i do?
2006-06-06 06:15:36 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave him in peace, you do not match. . .
He needs a woman with no past, that is extremely important to some men. . . .
2006-06-11 13:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Romeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he won't. It's too much to ask of a man to ignore you getting calls and text messages from ex-boy friends. He knows why they are calling and the fact that you don't want them anymore doesn't really matter. I would change your numbers because as long as you keep getting these "reminders", he will hold it against you. This is your problem brought about by your promiscuous past, next time lie and tell the new man that you haven't spent your life as a tramp. He probably won't believe you, but it will give him the peace of mind needed to stay with you.
2006-06-06 06:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its neither, it just is what it is. he's insecure and being a guy is probably figuring he won't 'measure' up to the competition. but on the other hand its silly for him to think you were born the day he met you and are without a past, everyone has one. for you, be who you are, you were a free person and entitled to make your own decisions, keep being you. tell him you are with him now and thats where you want to be, but don't do it to the extent where its annoying to you. he's gonna have to get over it eventually. now the calling and texting you need to put a stop to right now, i don't think you would appreciate his ex's calling him so do what it takes to make him feel better about that, return a text saying i have a bf leave me alone or change your number, he does deserve that.
2006-06-06 06:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case it is both of you. No one likes to be reminded of their partners past relationships but lest face it, everyone has baggage they bring into a relationship. He needs to realize that the past isn't important and that what is important is that you have chosen to be with him in the here and now. What you need to do is stop your past from continuing to follow you. There is no reason you can't get another phone number or block these calls and text messages from occurring.
2006-06-06 06:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure. Explain to him that you love him and you want to be with him. Tell your ex's that you are in a relationship and you would appreciate it if they would not call. You need to stop the calls period. Also try and tell him that what is in the past is past and that you two need to focus on the present and your future together. Good Luck!
2006-06-06 06:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I really believe that he has the problem,not you my dear! Everyone has past love stories,am i wrong??? Explain to him that you really want to stay with him and there's no problem about calling ang texting with others! Besides, communication is the most beautiful thing in the world! Just talk to him, explain things kindly and without most of all... peaceful!!!!!
2006-06-06 06:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a combination of both of you.
Obviously, he is not mature enough to let the past be the past.
On the other hand, your past is pretty damn close behind if those other guys are still trying to contact you.
Here's a tip: change your telephone number.
2006-06-06 06:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, This question I can answer
Rule#1
Never EVER talk about past relationships with your new one major turn off
RULE#2
Never EVER talk to your ex boyfriends when your new lover is around you not a turn on either
and
RULE#3
Always be faithful and HONEST with the man you are with...Just picture yourself in his shoes girl, IF you were him how would you feel for talking to your girlfriends ect...(using your guy for an example)
I mean you DON'T go around bragging on how many guys you slept with that is a huge nono right there if I were your boyfriend I wouldn't even be with you right now that's disgusting even to ask us viewers that....It shows your man that you can be a sl*t
So in my honest opionion drop the ex's and deal with your new one and DON'T GO AROUND TELLING PPL HOW MANY GUYS YOU SLEPT WITH!!!!!!
Jackie
From Canada
2006-06-06 06:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by jackie_ruel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have mentioned your past to your boyfriend. It sounds like he is bothered by the fact that your exes keep calling. Why aren't you telling these guys to stop calling? Maybe then your boyfriend wouldn't be so disturbed.
2006-06-06 06:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SOMETIMES US MEN GET VERY TERRITORIAL WE ALSO DONT LIKE TO BE WITH WOMEN WHOVE HAD THERE SHARE U KNO WHAT I MEAN?? ALSO IF THEY STILL CALL AND TXT...U NEED TO FIX THAT GET A NEW NUMBER OR SOMETHING CUZ HE SAYS HES NOT MAD AT U BUT...ITS YOUR PAST WHEN U WAS GETTIN AROUND SO IT PERTAINS TO YOU SO SOONER OR LATER HE WILL BLAME U ...ITS OBVIOUS HE CARES FOR U CUZ HE TRIES TO BE HOSPITABLE ABOUT IT SO CHANGE UR NUMBER OR IN THE FUTURE HE WONT BE SO EAZY GOING U COULD LOSE HIM SERIOUSLY
2006-06-06 06:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by META-4-RIC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋