how do i help my girlfriend after she was raped?

Answer 1

Be supportive of her. I wouldn't ask her about it, let her talk about it, but be prepared to listen and hear things you might not want to hear.

Never use it against her in the future.

Answer 2

As a rape victim, I can honestly say that a woman is never completely the same after the incident.

There are a few things you can do, but you have to know what to expect.

She might be afraid of men for awhile. Comfort her. Tell her you would never harm her.

Her body has already been invaded by her attacker. If she doesn't want to go through any doctor's visits or court rooms, be supportive. It is difficult to put yourself in her shoes right now, but her decisions are what is best for her right now. Being poked and prodded by a doctor after one has been raped is a very humiliating experience. If she doesn't want to, the best thing you can do is not push her.

Don't try to make her tell you everything, but let her know that you are there when she wants to talk about it. Then, be prepared to hear some horrible things. When you hear these things, make sure you don't react in a way that would make her uncomfortable.

Many women who have been raped experience a feeling of embarrassment and low self-esteem. Make sure you tell her how wonderful she is.

The best thing you can do right now is to be understanding and patient.

Answer 3

Well, having had my first time be a rape at a very young age, I know how she feels. It's something you never get completely over, but hopefully she will never feel like its anything she did wrong. A woman never deserves that. The best thing you can do is be gentle, loving and very patient when it comes to sex. She may have some issues in that department for a while. I would encourage her to call her local Rape Crisis Center. Most communities have them. They have group therapy and individual therapy. It is SO very important that she talk about what happened and listen to others in the same situation. It can really aid in the healing process.

Answer 4

Love her and Care for her. There are alot of things she's going to need and your understanding is going to be HUGE. Encourage her to report it, to seek help from a professional. When a woman has to testify in these types of trials, the defense attourney is going to do whatever they can to make that woman look bad like a slut or what have you. She's going to need you to stand next to her no matter what that attourney tries to make her out to be.
Also It may be very difficult for her to be physical with you. I had flashbacks for along time. Try to not pressure her and understand that it's not something you did... something as simple as a similar sound in the room or smell can make a flashback start. And a flash back is RELIVING the event.
Keep a really close eye on her.. Dramatic changes in her behavior weither it be her language, eating habits, drinking habits, and sexual promescuity are signs that she needs serious help.

What she really needs is to be Loved... to have someone tell her that she's still beautiful and that she's still wonderful that this rapist didn't make her disgusting... didn't make her worthless... She needs to have someone to listen to her even if she's said the same thing over and over again....
You and your girlfriend are in my prayers... God can heal this in her and give you the strength to stand by her through this. Take good care of eachother and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Answer 5

WHEW! Deep, thoghtful question! Be supportive! If she has reported this; there will be alot of follow ups. Be patient; do not push her to talk but be ready to listen w/no objectives or comments. Be re-assuring.; let her know you are still attractted to her. Initiate making love, but do not push. Let her know you will be ready when she is. You have now been raped too, the destuction and eventually strengh it will bring will be life changing. STAY STRONG, and God bless

Answer 6

keep supporting her, no matter what the circumstances. If she wants to file a report to the police, perhaps even go on a "man-hunt" always be there to support her and give her some strength and power. And when she totally looses it and cry, be there to give her a humunga-bunga hug and man... just be her rock. Hope she becomes alrite again mate.

Answer 7

I would encourage you to listen to her. Don´t judger her, don´t be biased, just listen to her. I would also recommend that you find a place where there are professionals with expertise in this area. I would encourage you to offer to go with her and help her get trough the recovery process.

Answer 8

Be Patient! Encourage her to get medical help right away to collect evidence. Encourage her to seek counseling. Encourage her in every way possible to press charges against the bastard!

Answer 9

Make sure she seeks professional help.

Be supportive. Be leery of initiating physical contact beyond, say handholding and kissing that she sees coming...no surprises, no jump scares etc.

Make sure that you reassure her that you still love her and that you still find her attractive.

Give her the space she needs, but be waiting, just outside it, in case she needs someone.

The evil side of me says find the (expletive) that did it and do serious bodily harm to him up to and possibly including his cessation of breathing, but we know you can't do that...so try and stifle your anger...you don't want to have her thinking you're angry at her.

Answer 10

show here that your there to protect her and your not gonna let it happen again take it easy dont be hitting on her or trying to get her to have sex she has been morally wronged and she needs time before she is ready for that sort of thing make sure she feels confortable with whatever your doing and make sure not to make jokes about anything even related in any sort of way to that

Answer 11

Well I took Psychology and in all honesty, there's not much you can do to help a person who suffers from a traumatic experience. All you can do is be there for he when she wants to there. If she needs your comfort, she'll need you know.