2006-06-06 06:02:07 · 6 answers · asked by CaliMa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some tips that have work for me:
Agree on joint custody of the kids. That way, you both can decide over the children'f future together and both of you can be involved making importatnt decisions in your kids lives.
Be generous on visitation. That way the kids can have a fair share of both parents.
Have an agreement with your soon-to -be ex about NOT badmouthing the other when not present, That hurts the kids. Make that solemn promise that you will not talk bad about the other one during visitation.
Have a conversation with the kids, Explain what is about to happen and how much you love them and how daddy an mommy still care about each other.
When visitation comes, try to make the transition an easy as posssible. This NO time for arguments or sour faces.
Remain in friendly terms.
Always allow your ex to talk on the phone with the kids. ALWAYS.
Send father day/birthday cards sign by the kids.
CIVIL is never using the kids to get back at one another. Good for you that you are willling to do this.
2006-06-06 07:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that even though you are not together you have a child together and you should be civil to each other infront of the child and not talk badly about each other infront of the child. The child needs to know that both of you still love him/her and that they have nothing to do with what is going on between the two of you adults. Goodluck..
2006-06-06 06:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Civil why whats there to be not civil that was your husband you had your child with him that child as yours as much as his!! Since your getting a divorce, from that point onwards he will be just your child's father and you treat him that way!
2006-06-06 06:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should and need to be civil to your soon to be ex this is only fair to everyone including your child in this as well!
2006-06-06 06:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember you are making nice for the sake of the child... it will help you all out in the future
2006-06-06 06:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it for the kids sake...plain and simple...this is where we the woman must show our true power within ourselves...set ur personal differences aside ..smile (underneath ur fuming) but u keep smiling ....cuz in the end...its the kids heart and mind that matter.
2006-06-06 06:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋