Married men only please!?

Question

My husband wants to have a threesome but I am hesitant. I was just wondering if any married men have had a threesome with there wife? And if you did, did it make you want to cheat or stray afterward? Or did it make you love your wife even more because of what she was willing to do for you? Only serious answers please.

Answer 1

Having two women at once is the prime fantasy of 90% of men. But as in all things that men do, what is the motivation behind his request. Fantasy is one thing, reality is another. Make no mistake, if your husband has sex with another woman, whether you're there or not, he's cheated. Not only that, you gave him permission to cheat. His vow of "foresaking all others" has been broken. And don't think for one minute that he won't try, and most likely succeed, in getting together with her afterwards alone. You have to ask yourself one thing, Do you want another woman in bed with you? Forget your husband for a minute, what do you want? If you don't feel comfortable before it happens, chances are you'll regret it later. Even some of those who thought they were comfortable with it beforehand, have regretted ever doing it. Others on the other hand, have found it to be a very pleasurable and longlasting affair. Ask your husband what he expects of you during the encounter. Does he want you to engage in sexual acts with her? Does he want you to just watch?
Bottom line is, he's asking permission to cheat. He wants to have sex with other women. If you say yes he may or may not think any more or less of you. But he may go one extreme or another. He may love you more or he may leave you. Only you know your husband well enough. If you tell him that you're not comfortable with the idea, he may cheat on you anyway.
My advice, don't ever let anyone make you do anything that you're not 100% comfortable with. And know your consequences.
Anyone that says "do it" or "don't do it" is giving you bad advice. Open marriges are not for everyone. They won't save your marrige but they can destroy them.
And don't lose sleep over this issue. If you're having problems at home, fix them first. Have fun when things are good, not to hide from your problems.

Answer 2

marital act is supposed to serve the purpose of marriage. it is a relation between two people committed to each other. if this marital act is shared with a third party it becomes 'too crowdy' and destroys the very purpose of marriage. Sexual boredom is the reason why some married people resort to 'sexual experiments' or anything that could enhance their sex life. sex is not love though love may lead to sex. The fact, that a couple had already a threesome is already in itself a mode of cheating or strayed relationship if not a strange one. Having threesome does not cause the husband to love the wife more, on the contrary, the fact that the husband decided to have threesome, is a sure sign that he loves the wife less.

Answer 3

I would never even consider the idea. I don't want to share my wife with another guy or even another girl. Too many people find out after trying a threesome that the fantasy is much better than reality. In reality most people are not very good at separating their emotions from the act of sex and in the long run most relationships end up ruined. It takes a very special group of people to be able to make this happen without any bad side affects.

Answer 4

Nope, never done it.
I would suggest that you do NOT do this, for a lot of reasons.
You already touched on one good reason, but consider the other reasons, like getting a sexually transmitted disease, ruined reputations, lose self-respect or divorce.
I suppose he wants to be with another woman.
How do you suppose he would react if you said that you wanted to be with another guy and him?
If you are a submissive wife and don't mind where your husband sends his love-missile, then by all means, go for it.
But don't come back to these boards and whine to us how your husband dumped you for someone else or that you have herpes.

Answer 5

I have never experienced it, nor given thought to it. With that said, it does bring about a curiousity factor. But I doubt I would ask a wife to participate. It's appeared to work for others who have answered, but I think it degrades the marriage. I bet there are some interesting stories from those who have.

Answer 6

We had talked about it and decided not to do it. Do I regret that? No.

I Love my wife very much and doing a threesome could have messed things up, so we both chose not to do it.

Answer 7

My wife and I tried it and it was fun. It didn't make me want to stray. WARNING for your hubby: It's a lot of work pleasing 2 women, he better get prepared. The first time about killed me!!

Answer 8

Mixed reaction. Would like to, but forbidden fruit is always sweeter, and the new girl or guy will always seem better just because it is new and exciting. If your confident in your marriage and are 100 percent, go for it, otherwise, keep in the fantasy realm.

Answer 9

One of my best friends and his wife just did this not very long ago. Now he is pressuring her for more and more. Shes regretting her decision to let it happen more and more. She is now worried that the other girl did things he liked better than what she does to him. Bad idea in my book!

Answer 10

Im not a man, but I can say from my experiance w/my hubby that my husband and my relationship has definatly gotten better. We talk about everything, and when I asked him what he thought he said whenever he thinks about it, it makes him think of how much i enjoyed it and makes him want me even more. I hope that helps a bit. :)