My boyfriend plays comp video games for hours on end. I love him and he is a wonferful father and I dont want to leave what should I do??? I have tried talking to him and it has not worked so far...help
2006-06-06 05:56:58 · 15 answers · asked by J~me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
join the club. boys and their games! i say if he's pulling his weight job wise, kid wise, and with you, then let him have his fun. i just let my bf buy a playstation 2 so that at least i could play WITH him sometimes. if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. i feel your pain. good luck :)
2006-06-06 06:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by t1g8h81 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone always jump to leaving first....you married the man you have to make it work. Sit him down and talk to him...there's always counseling too if you need someone else to help you get those feelings out and make him understand. There is always something that you can do...don't just leave him because he's playing a few too many video games. If you do then you never should have been married in the first place and then you leave your children without their father all over some stupid video games.
2006-06-06 13:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by andijo420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video games are a way for him to escape from the troubles of real life. When he plays a game he only has to worry about how many monsters he has killed or how many points to score and not "is the baby okay" or "did I take the trash out" or "what should I make for dinner"
I think that there is nothing wrong with video games, and while I strongly feel that you are exagerating the amount of time he plays, I understand your concern that he is neglecting you, the children, and his real life. (Try timing him, see how long he really does play, I bet it seems like it is a LOT more to him and a little less to you)
You said you tried talking to him, but I think what you need to do is impress upon him your real feelings. Use "I" statements like "I feel unloved because you spent time playing GTA:III instead of going out to the park with me."
Let him know that you support his choice of free time passtime, but that you feel unloved and neglected. You need to come up with a compromise, perhaps you can ask him to play only a couple of hours a day and spend the rest of the time with you and the kids, or perhaps you can join him playing games?
2006-06-06 13:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you can try finding something more interesting for him than video games ...
For a star you try a gradual change ... like visiting some sort of exhibition of video games ... or event that features video games. You can also try playing with him multiplayer ... :) if he likes it ... he will be looking forward your game together and you can start shrinking the play time ... by inviting him to other activities ... go out with friends, picnic, cinema ... even more personal ;)
2006-06-06 13:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Konstantin Kostov 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need more "me" time with him. If he can't drag his butt away from a video game to spend time with his family, you really don't need him. I speak from experience, I used to play xbox for hours on end, and I'm 40 years old. I did it on the weekends, while my wife was sleeping or watching a chick flick and it still made her mad. So I sold the xbox and sit around listening to her or watching useless chick flicks, but she's happy and that's what matters. Men are wired very different from women, and if he isn't willing to give it a break, he isn't mature enough to be a father yet.
2006-06-06 13:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he really such a wonderful father and boyfriend if he is addicted to games and spends his time with games instead of with you and his kids? If a man loves you he will always choose to spend his time doing something with you over playing video games. If he can't do that then he doesn't really love you and it is time for you to move on.
2006-06-06 13:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends does he need to comit hours of attention to you? Does he do a bad job with this or do you just have something against video games. Maybe it's his way of unwinding. It's only a problem if it gets in the way of him functioning as an individual.
2006-06-06 13:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by chiteface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unplug it.
Is he just ignoring you?
Have you gotten all fat and obnoxious since the baby was born?
Next time he starts staring at the comp. put your rack in his face, if he turns down sex for a video game than you need to leave him.
2006-06-06 12:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by SWIFFER THE WONDER MUTT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him strategy games (you know Age of empires, age of Mythology, etc... so that he realises RESPONSIBILITY) OR tell him straight in the face : "Do you love me or ur PS2/PC ???"; If the answer is not wht you are expecting DITCH HIM!!! There are lots of nice guys out there in the world
2006-06-06 13:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Soham 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through out his play station and tell him to get a job if he does not already have one.
2006-06-06 12:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by TheComputerHacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋