Were you born gay, or did you have to work on it.?

Question

I believe some (5%) people are born gay. I think Nature has decided to take them out of the gene pool for some reason. They don't have the desire to pro-create. But I think Gays CHOOSE to do the actual physical act of homosexuality, which is so repulsive to straight people. what say you?

Please don't say that God hates gays, or that he did not create them that way. I believe in nature as my god.

We are all just animals, we behave like them, we eat,breath,deficate,have sex, and sleep just like other mammals. Nature is the only truth out there.

Answer 1

Without an actual poll being conducted, there's no way to say what percentage of people were born gay as opposed to .... choosing? it. Just to put your statistic in perspective.

They've been taken out of the gene pool....wrong. If by that you mean that they can't have kids, that's not true.

They don't have the desire to procreate...wrong. I don't have that desire, in fact I find it abhorrent. But I'm not gay.

Who cares if it's abhorrent to us? And of course they CHOOSE to do it, just the same as we choose to do what we do sexually.

Answer 2

I think you are addressing two different things here -- the first is the nature of human sexuality -- I concur that people are born as they are -- just as animals are, and so point you to Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's excellent study on the topic "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press.

I also agree that of course, any person can choose to be celibate. I suppose that an argument could be made that since homosexual acts and relationships are abhorrent to straight people, and straight acts and relationship are abhorrent to gays -- that since there are more straights than gays then gays should all be celibate...

but why?

We have huge numbers of straight friends. We don't care what any of them do in bed. They don't care what we do in bed. No one has any problem with what/how/who anyone else is boinking.

That realistically is the way it should be.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org

Answer 3

The following questions may just answer yours...

Questions for Heterosexuals

developed by Martin Rochlin, Ph.D

1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

2. When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?

3. Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

4. Is is possible your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

5. Isn't it possible that all you need is a good Gay lover?

6. Heterosexuals have histories of failures in Gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?

7. If you've never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn't prefer that?

8. If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?

9. To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?

10. Your heterosexuality doesn't offend me as long as you don't try to force it on me. Why do you people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?

11. If you choose to nurture children, would you want them to be heterosexual knowing the problems they would face?

12. The great majority of child molesters are heterosexuals. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?

13. Why do you insist on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of your heterosexuality? Can't you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

14. How can you ever hope to become a whole person if you limit yourself to a compulsive, exclusive heterosexual object choice and remain unwilling to explore and develop your normal, natural, healthy, God-given homosexual potential?

15. Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other to narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?

16. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?

17. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

18. How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual,considering the menace of overpopulation?

19. There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed with which you might be able to change if you really want to.
Have you considered aversion therapy?

20. Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?

Maybe this will help you think about it better.

Answer 4

I am bi, possibly gay. I definitely wasn't born gay. I am still with my girlfriend of 12 years, in fact. For at least 13 years I have been attracted to my best friend (male) and we had our first gay sex experience about 10 years ago. I grew up around 2 lesbians; a good friend and my cousin. I never knew any gay men, though. I went to a pentecostal church from age 8-16, so I had religious values instilled in me as a child.

And I DO believe God accepts gays/bi's. The bible says God is merciful. Why would a merciful God send us to hell just for acting on our feelings of love (as I love my male friend.) We bi's/gays can't help how we feel about other men, and a merciful God would understand that.

Answer 5

I think it's a little bit of everything. Maybe a little biological, some enviromental, what happened to you growing up, all your experiences...and voilá, you're gay.

And just like you say, we choose to do the actual physical act, just as straight people choose too. Everybody chooses with who, at what age, etc...not just gay people. And it's so not true that we don't want to procreate. I myself have a kid.

Answer 6

Anyone that says being gay is a choice was either born straight or is in the closet due to the fact that they are afraid of being who they really are because society tells us being gay is wrong.

Answer 7

Anyone who believes being gay is a choice is saying that they had a choice to be gay or straight...which makes them at least bisexual. They are outing themselves when they say this. All the people who answered this question saying that being gay is a choice: You are all either bisexual or gay. Now, we know...you may want to watch who you say that to, or they will know your truth.

Answer 8

I think that Darthritus,Dominic, and Sway ii, are all gay but just can't come out of the closet. Do some research idiots we are born that way. Gay and Proud!

Answer 9

Actually, about 11% of the population is exclusively homosexual. I'm bisexual/displaced, and I can assure you I didn't "work on it." In fact, I was terrified when I realized I was thinking "that way" about other girls. It took close to three years for me to accept that this is just who I am.

Answer 10

its a choice. god created the world different. i am straight. but then agaign i think they might be born with it or bean somwhere that had gay people and adapted to the lifestyle.