Ok I used to date this girl, like 3 yrs. ago, but we never got into anything serious because I also was seeing other girls. A long time has passed by, I had a baby (he's now 8 months old), and just out of nowhere, I saw her. I'm interested to go out with her again, first as friends and if something else comes out of that, awesome. The thing is that, since I had my baby, I said no more girls, but I can't help it.
We went out two weekends ago, she went with me to an anniversary party of the place I work at. Then we went to a club. I haven't called her, and she hasn't called me either. I'm scared because I have been out of the "dating game" for a while, and when I used to date her she wanted something serious, and I didn't. Now it's backwards and I'm scared she'll take revange or something. By the way, she's 28 and I'm 25.
What should I do? Do I ask her out again? How? Thanks!
2006-06-06 05:33:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh, and we're both women. Sorry I didn't say that before, I was assuming you'd know since I posted in LGBT.
2006-06-06 05:50:01 · update #1
In all my years of experience with dramatic relationships the best advice i can give is just to be honest and to communicate. It is hard because you have a child, but you should talk to her, tell her how you feel, test the waters and try to find out how she feels and just talk about it. The worse thing that can happen is that you two don't end up together, you aren't together now, you have nothign to loose. Maybe you will discover that both of you want to try something out, and then you could have a chance at a great relationship. Maybe she is just try to stay back becasue she is worried about how you feel. Either way, you'll never know unless you two talk about it. Call her up and see if you can go out again....then just be honest with her and i bet you she will be honest too.
2006-06-06 05:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, first think about ur son. He should come first, let her know that back in the day you weren't wanting anything serious, and now that you have a son your very careful about who you date. Tell her your interested in something more and if she's not then you two should call it off now. Also apologize for acting the way you did a few years ago, u might of left her heart broken, if u tell how sorry you are, she most likely won't have a grudge. Good Luck and Happy Fathers Day! (early)
2006-06-06 05:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you think was not serious was pretty serious enough. u have had sex then a baby then u say it was a casual affair. what is a serious affair for your generation. you seriously date a female make her pregnant and ditch her. then again you want to start from where you left. Are u being just? put yourself in that girls position. so shes trying to play safe with you. Most probably her scars are still raw for her to take you seriously. Havent you heard of the proverb once bitten twice shy? if you really love her and want to marry and settle down with her then convince her about your intentions. and age has no bar as far as love is concerned.
2006-06-06 05:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough situation, but u can only ask yourself if you really want her, because if u think about it...if u really wanted her then you wouldnt have left her. Now that your all alone and with a kid you think shes going to be there for you, because at one point she was willing. i say you give her a call, since you the one that wants her. why should she call u?
so when you call her ask her out again. and if she says yes go for it and if she hesitates...maybe she doesnt like the new you, or maybe she doesnt want a relationship where her partner has a child.
good luck!
2006-06-06 05:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by arly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while youre leaving, basically ask, and look a sprint shy (females like it while youre a sprint susceptible) "so ummmm do you have a mate/guy/boyfriend?" yet look on a similar time dont start up giggling with the aid of fact which you dont desire her to think of youre joking. if she seems positioned off, and he or she says yeah I particularly have a boyfriend, then you definately can snort and basically tell her you're no longer shocked and to have a solid day. if she says no, and is guffawing, furnish to take her out! easy as that! to no longer a complex romantic concern, perchance basically furnish to take her to a eating place or something, tell her youve continually observed her and you would be wanting to get to be responsive to her. if its going nicely, you may exchange numbers ..and there you bypass! solid success! bear in mind, dont act cocky, act slightly shy lol ;)
2016-10-30 07:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her. Ask her out for coffee. Coffee is always harmless and can be taken as friendship or more, depending on the conversation. Say you need some "me" time (since you're "Mommy" all the time). Don't worry about revenge. You asked her out and she went. She's not going to call you. She's waiting for you to call her (since you're the one who invited her last time). Call her.
2006-06-06 05:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to NOT take advice.
at least not very seriously. girls do not feel, think, or react alike, and asking other girls their opinion will not get you very far in evaluating how SHE will react.....
having said that, i also advise you to try to remember all the reasons why you said "no more girls," and try to determine how important that commitment was to you. Then i advise you to try to remember all the reasons why "you can't help it" and why you now want "something serious."
don't let any form of fear get in the way, or try to guess how everybody is feeling.
simply sort out your priorities and act upon them.
2006-06-06 05:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by nam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should if you like her. You will never be happy if you don't. You do have to think of if something long term comes of it, will you be comfortable with your child seeing and understanding this. There are moral issues here. I am glad to see that you are thinking of it.
2006-06-06 05:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Donkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you got to lose? Simply tell her you had a lot of fun being with her again and would like to do it again...soon!
2006-06-06 05:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, are you a guy or girl. or do i want to know? either way, you should just be friends, and don't get too involved. ewwwwwwwwwwww, you are gay. gross. go get some help
2006-06-06 05:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by chuchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋