My bf for 3 yrs for the 3rd time is needing space and telling me we are not working. Why am I his yoyo?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you are thinking right, atleast you recognize that you are indeed his "yo-yo". Honey, I hate to say this but you have GOT to move on. Show him you are noone's yo-yo and get the heck outta this relationship. Who does he think he is? You are too special and important to be treated this way. There's someone out there who will love you and treat you just the way you deserve, like a princess. I have been where you are and I'm 28 now. I've had my share of long relationships and trying to force them to work and basically living in denial. I have finally found my soul mate and I love him so very much! and he is SO good to me. He's everything I have ever dreamed of since I was little, he's my best friend! You stop wasting your time on this guy (I know it's not that easy, 3 years is a long time). But you do need to get out of this now. Show him that you are not going to sit around and always be there waiting for him. Quit making this easy for him! You can do it! So get out there and get happy, life is too short to live this way. Can you really see yourself living the rest of your life this way? What about when you have children? He isn't going to change. Move on sweetie!

Answer 2

There's a few factors here. He's Martian and your from Venus or simply he probably likes the hunt and you prefer to gather in and store. When he's around life probably seems to get routine and ordinary. Other factors may be trying to get him to change perhaps nagging or talking to much.
when you become a challenge again is most likely when he comes looking again. Men also need their spaces. Garages and sheds are like caves to them places where they can focus on interests. He may not get that when he's around you feeling his time is taken up with your interests. Problem is without good communication you won't ever get to the source of what's going on and for any relationship to succeed good communication is needed. These skills aren't learned in most familiies as in periods of stress we generally fall back on our childhood communication skills crying, avoiding, shouting, put downs etc... If he comes back again and you still think he's worth it then both of you need to get professional help to resolve the real issues not the imagined ones.

Answer 3

Because you let yourself be his yo yo. Tell him that if he needs that much 'space' he can have all the space he wants! Find someone who is committed to you, not someone who just comes and goes.

Answer 4

because you allow yourself to be his yoyo put your foot down tell him you aint going to go for his bullshit any longer.

Tell him you can do bad by yourself when they say that they need space thats just a nice way of breaking up.

LEAVE THAT ZERO GIRL, AND FIND YOU A HERO

Answer 5

Because you let yourself be his yo yo. Give him permanent space and find someone new after you have had some time with yourself

Answer 6

I think it's time to say bye-bye for good. He obviously only wants you around because he doesn't like to be alone and everytime he sees something he thinks he might like, he's telling you he needs space. I'm telling you, just leave.

Answer 7

You shouldn't let him do this to you. Take this break as an opportunity to go out and meet new people. A relationship that is this unstabe can't be fixed. Get out.

Answer 8

Because you let him be that way. I'm going through the same thing and until you decide that this isn't the way you want your relationship to be, it'll never change.

Answer 9

Beautiful South wrote a song about you.

Answer 10

because you let him do it to you over and over stand up for you'r self you are better than that let him go and let him see how it feels.