My husband gave me his email login to check for an email since our home computer was down. When I logged in, I found that he has been chatting with a longtime friend across the country and there have been sexual conversations.
When I confronted him, he said that it was innocent flirting that went too far. There is no way there was contact - but I am still hurt. What should I think or do?
2006-06-06 05:19:48 · 10 answers · asked by postprego 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it sounds to me like there is some need that is not being met in your marriage...you may want to seek counseling because the odds are if she was here, things would have led from conversation to physical contact.
2006-06-06 05:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by mick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's cheating, if you come close to thinking it's cheating, IT IS CHEATING. If you have a problem with his internet escapades, it is a problem - for you, for him and the relationship. You have every right to voice your concern, so, don't hold back.
First, I want you to "get this" so it sinks deeply into every cell of your womanhood: you are not defective!
You did NOT deserve this. There is nothing you could have done to cause anyone to be unfaithful. Sure, there may have been other relationship problems in which you played a part, but the decision to go outside the relationship rests solely with him. It doesn't matter if you were the meanest, unlovable, nagging, complaining, whining wretch on the planet (you know all the excuses, they try to lay on you).
Even then, you did not deserve to be betrayed.
Surviving infidelity is possible. You will get through this. Whether you choose to reconcile and save your marriage or relationship, or whether you choose a breakup or divorce, you will survive your cheating husband.
2006-06-06 05:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet flirting is addictive and dangerous. Yes, it's cheating because there are feelings involved and an emotional conection.
I suggest that you draw the line and ask him to stop doing it becuase it hurts your feelings. See what he says or do after that. If he respect you and love you should be able to stop his internet fling, if it is as "harmless" as he says it is.
Also, try to spend more time with your hubby, keeping occupied (with you of course) to fill up the time that he used to spend on the net. Good luck to you
2006-06-06 05:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm.. properly its no longer relatively cheating yet why could you choose to have a courting over the internet? you cant ever see them! in a vogue that is cheating because of the fact your devoting a number of it sluggish to the guy on the information superhighway and to no longer your boyfriend. so its technically cheating.
2016-09-28 03:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this sounds like cheating to me but you have to find out for sure. Is he having cyber sex with her and cam stuff? If so that is definitely cheating. Flirting is wrong especially if you are married and it can definitley lead to more!
2006-06-06 05:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it is cheating...emotional contact is enough, if they were talking on the phone and it was innocent flirting it would be a problem...its till communication, so dont let him play the innocent card...tell him how you feel...386
2006-06-06 05:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AGREE ! cheating is cheating..whether it is internet or in person. trust me...put the shoe on the other foot for a sec...he checks your email and finds that you have had cybersex...do you think HE would be so non chalant about it? i think not!
2006-06-06 05:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'd be hurt as well. Some advice.....confront him maturely and ask him to put himself in your shoes. Tell him how you feel and how he hurt you.
2006-06-06 05:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by youdontknowme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is cheating u need to let your husband now how u feel about it
2006-06-06 05:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by sassyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is still cheating
2006-06-06 05:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by scorpio11120 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋