my partner keeps looking at porn on the internet and then lies about it.I can see on the computer what he has searched. should I be worried about him cheating?
2006-06-06 05:08:53 · 19 answers · asked by topman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he's probably just embarassed. i doubt he's cheating. does the porn bother you? or are you okay with it and you'd just like him to be honest? either way tell him what you think. my bf watches porn on occasion and i'm fine with it... i know he's not cheating on me and we have a great sex life, so it's not a problem!
if you're okay with him watching, maybe you could try to watch it with him once in a while, too.
2006-06-06 05:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by t1g8h81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry about cheating. But you should worry about exactly what sites he's looking at. I had a guy that was totally hooked to on line porn and it caused lots of problems. One, the crap he downloaded caused the computer to crash three different times. And I had my service terminated by two different Internet providers for "illegal activity on the Internet."
Nothing stopped him though. And he lied about it too. Wherever he is, he's still doing that crap, but now he's not doing it on my computer!!
2006-06-06 05:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's just something men love to do.....
If it's the type of porn- like kinky stuff is bothering you, then you should sit down and have a talk. But for the most part- men are visual stimulated and they love looking at that stuff. Just like we like reading love story and watching sappy movies... doesn't mean we are going to run off with someone else. It's just a release.
Also, your invading his privacy by checking what he has searched which can make someone moody- if he is having a bad reaction when you confront him on it.
Just let it go... boys will be boys.
2006-06-06 05:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that looking at porn is cheating. Now if he is communicating with someone on the Internet that is different.
2006-06-06 05:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Janeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nopes...not yet...maybe ur partner feels ashamed to tell you about it. Maybe your partner thinks you'll form a -ve opinion abt him if he told you he watches porn...Just give him some space and confidence and try to casually refer to some really groovy things you happen to have watched on the net and involve in foreplay...make him comfortable with you and ask tell him that you've noticed his interest in online porn etc...and u're ok with it...try not to discomfort him by saying that u suspect him...he might clam up...however, keep a close watch after that, just incase he must be having an affair...u never know...but first...TRUST HELPS!
2006-06-06 05:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must feel like it's either wrong, or wrong to do to you, because he feels the need to hide it and lie about it. That means he knows there is a problem, but he isn't treating you with respect or respecting your feelings. He could be on the way to being addicted to it, where he may end up to the point that he has difficulty satisfying himself in reality, like when he's with you. In short, it could cause real problems in his life if it begins to control him.
Whether or not he's cheating on you, the fact that he's lying and hiding things does not make him trustworthy. If he treats his own "needs" above your relationship, he very well could cheat on you because your relationship is lesser in importance to his selfish needs.
I would try to talk to him - he might welcome the support. It's very well known that that industry is one of the most immediately addictive ones, and can suck people in, even if they never even meant to go to a site in the first place.
2006-06-06 05:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by UnrealJuju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn doesn't equal cheating. Most every guy I know looks at porn. Its a guy thing.
2006-06-06 05:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female - in my 40s and NO don't worry about it. Guys do that kind of thing - it's normal. And answer this question to yourself HONESTLY - do you ever fantasize? Remember, be honest with yourself and you will realize that that is what it's all about.
2006-06-06 05:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is just a freak and you better start taking notes from the porn he is watching and give him something to look for in you
2006-06-06 05:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe the only reason i say thins is because he is lying to yu about something as simple and stupid as porn... so what else may he be lying about?? then agian maybe he is lying to you because he doenst want to hurt your feelings that he finds porn sluts great
2006-06-06 05:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋