At the age around 30, most people get confused and unsure what to do next?

Question

Has others felt this way? From arouns 27 - 35 years - most people are unsure what do next or may change the way they are living (career, habits, etc). Any thoughts?

Answer 1

Thirty?! That late?!

(Dear lord, my entire LIFE since age 10, I think, has been one large midlife crisis! :) )

It depends on the person, but people commonly (men especially, since their self-image is more tied into their profession) go through a few periods of confusion where they wonder if they are doing the right thing, if they are wasting their lives, if they could have been more productive, if they are really happy, and so forth....

This mid-life crisis is normally considered around 40, but 30 is a fine age as well. It's just enough time to establish yourself in a job or leave graduate school, get married and have a few kids... and then wonder if you did the right thing and if you'll be happy later or regret your decisions.

Society has become more flexible at least. Especially nowadays, people change jobs regularly. Fifty years ago, you usually just worked one job and retired from it; now it's possible to try out different things as you go, and experiment a bit.

I still struggle over the purpose of my life, and I'm 37. While yes, your options will be more limited than when you were younger, you always have the option to start each day fresh and new, moving in a new direction. It will take work and commitment, but you shouldn't be afraid to try something new and see how you like it... and if you don't like it, try something else.

There is no right answer. The cliche nowadays is that it's "the journey, not the destination." That's correct -- what it means is that you can enjoy changing your life, trying new things, experience today on its own merits, and stop worrying so much over how everything will work out and if you are making the most beneficial decision for your whole life.

Life is more trial-and-error than that, and it's okay.

Answer 2

Well, yes, i think you are rigth, and many people has to go trougth this stage.

I believe the reason is that at that age, you have achieved some or many, or maybe all of the goals you had dreamed on your childhood and your youth.

And it seems an age where it's dificult to think of starting over with new things, since you are not 20 anymore, you have not the strong, the enthusiasm that we had when we were younger.

Besides it seem too hard to go trougth all of the efforts we have going trougth till now, that its more dificult to make new decisions, make new choices, take next steps.

Anyway, it's just a stage, and maybe we should be even more decided, more confident, since we have in our hands a big ammount of experience that we didn't have back there, and eventougth we did it.

So, let's go ahead, let's help each other, i believe it is useful to find support with people of your same age, that are having the same kind of dificult.

Good luck on that, i'm in the middle as well, but i believe i'll come out succesfully.

Answer 3

WOW! It's so great to hear I am not so abnormal like I thought!! I'm 28 and feel so lost sometimes, I still don't know what I want to be when "I grow up" ha ha! Seriously though, I do struggle with finding out what my purpose in life is. I have overcome many obstacles in life including a drug addiction. For the first time, I am overall content with who I am and it feels really good to be free from the "rat race" of active addiction. I just try to pray and allow God to lead me in the right direction. I try to do the next "right" thing in front of me and live right and help others. Although I do not have a career yet or much money at all, I feel peace inside by helping others with addiction problems. I am SO not what I dreamed of being at the age of 28. I'm not married yet, don't have children and don't have a real job. I guess that's okay though, I'm just doing the best I can. Thanks for letting me know that I'm not the only confused 30ish person on earth!! ha ha! Good luck to you and I have faith that we'll figure all of this out soon!

Answer 4

That age group is a wonderful turning point in our lives.In the 20's age group we are discovering things,and situations that naturally were not taking place in our teen years. Age is like a climb up a set of stairs. Phases..when we reach our 30's we are finding out that we are not ..babies/ teens/ or young adults anymore...We Are
Adults. A time to make adult choices, and put away all those foolish habits we have been carrying up til now. Once you sit down and put all your plans together/ in catagories(on paper helps)....study them...then follow through...you will be fine. Try to include God in your life...you need Him..trust me...John 3:16

Answer 5

On average, adults change their careers approximately 7 times. It is completely normal phase in human development, a transitioning period most go through. I think it's a good thing- not just letting life happen to you- so many people do that and end up unhappy. So it's a positive thing to make decisions about who you want to be and what you value.Better now than having a mid life crisis. seriously

Answer 6

I guess this explains why I've been feeling the way that I have lately; I'm thirty-three and I definitely feel some serious changes need to be made! But seriously I don't just think this occurs with people in their thirties. A desire to change can occur at any stage of life.

Answer 7

I am 28. And I JUST got some direction, so don't feel bad if your life is still a question mark. Just don't get married or have kids w/o a career and stable life. And drugs, stay off them drugs.

I got my degree just last year, and I am working on another. I will FINALLY enter the "real world" this time next year...I'll be 29 and feeling fine.

Answer 8

I reached that point at the age of 25. I wasn't satisfied with my life and where I was, I felt I needed a change but didn't know what to change or how to start. I think it depends on maturity as to when you'll reach that point in your life, I think that's what men call a "mid-life chrisis" cuz that's when they finally get it.

Answer 9

Around thirty, a person starts to question if they are on the right path or not. With age, you will figure it out. No one can tell you what you believe in or what career path to take. You need to figure that out for yourself. Just search your soul & heart & listen to your instincts. Follow your heart & all will fall into place.

Answer 10

It's normal to take a step back and look at where you are going and what you have achieved at this time of your life. Use it to discover what your passion really is and make the necessary changes if you aren't pursuing that. Its never too late and absolutely worth it!