It seems he thinks about lieing before the truth. I know it has something to do with his upbringing, but how can I help him change that way of life before it ruins are relationship. I mean he lies about things I actually see him do and he knows I saw him, and he still says he didn't do it...Just like a kid would if you caught them with crumbs on their face a still say they didn't eat the cookie..please any advice will help...I think he was just born to lie
2006-06-06 04:58:08 · 10 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By this point it sound pathalogical, he lies without even thinking about it and if it goes on much longer he could even beging to believe his lies. It will take time to correct this problem but with the right help you and him should be able to make it through it.
2006-06-06 05:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by honest guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men lie because they do not want to take responsibility for thier options. They know exactly what is right and what is wrong to do in a relationship. If your adult enough to have a relationship, you should be adult enough to make a committment and be honest, If a man is afraid of losing someone its because they know they are doing something wrong and they must lie to keep thier convenient life. Men and Women both need to grow up and be honest, if your partner does not except you as you are you need to find someone who does. Or stay by yourself. Compromise is always the answer and if you want your partners trust dont give her a reason to doubt by lieing. bottom line. If you know what you want, go for it and be truthful if you dont tell them that up front and you will give them the choice. This way you will never be called selfish.
Here's another reason why men lie...
Men lie because the little brains they sometimes have are in their penises. They are too stupid to realize that woman do usually find out about their lies eventually and sometimes if they would have told the truth in the first place, it wouldn't have caused nearly as big of an issue. I think every woman should think the way I do: Never trust men. Never beleive what they say. Never take their word for anything because their word is no good. Just use them for sex the way they have done to most of us, because let's face it, we need sex the same way they do. Never have feelings for them because most of the time they don't know what feelings are and why would you want to care for someone and love them when they don't care about you?
2006-06-06 12:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Maya 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is an old saying ask me no questions I will tell you no lies. People tell lies for a variety of reasons some out of habit. It sounds like the two of you are simply butting heads. Someone has to end the cycle especially if the lies are not important. If you can trust what he does not lie about then you can start there. Try to avoid backing him into a corner with your questions to where he has to tell a lie to get out. People react to the way they are treated. I fI trust then they will be trustworthy. If I don't then there are lots of reasons to break the trust. we can only change others by the way we treat them ourselves. If you treat me like a liar I lie!
2006-06-06 12:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the reality part of his life he doesn't think it is exciting so he has to lie about things. You are right that is a problem. Maybe when he is not in the lying mode talk to him about it.
2006-06-06 12:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um sorry, but ur kinda whiney. Why dont u tell mr the truth? Arnt I good enough? Bla bla bla. Mabye thats why he lied.
2006-06-06 12:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He needs help and counseling... Sounds to me like he cannot help himself and that he is a habitual liar... He needs counseling for this and you need help to love him where he is at!
2006-06-06 12:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront him in his lies and it might make him think that u will catch him every thime
2006-06-06 12:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by little_pebbles24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him (I know such a person). Either live with it or leave.
2006-06-06 12:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope i do the same
it is because we want to give you the most pleasing answer
2006-06-06 12:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by mc_1_2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant change him, he is immature and in denial. You sure know how to pick 'em.
2006-06-06 12:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋