why do men hit there wifes?

Question

my husband hits me and i don't understand what i did to desever it he hit me be for and i hit back but this time i was scard he only hit my face one time but never lift mark he always hits my arms and this last time it lift a mark he was going hit me in my face but i had my sonin my arms so he hit my arm and all i could do was set there i was to scared to move why does this happen to me or any body also why do men hurt there wifes. will it get worst

Answer 1

Leave ....it will continue.
Get out now

Answer 2

To answer you question, Men (and I use the term loosely) hit there wives because they are incabable of handling the problem in other ways. They were eather taught to hit by there parents or are unable to efectivly communicate verbaly what there point is and insead of debating the subject to get there wife to see there opinion, then they turn to beating. Some men also have problems controling there anger. They do not want to hit there wives at all but in a heated argument they loose control and strike out. Alcohol and drugs just compund the problem because they impare you judgment and ability to reasion.
I truly feel sorry for you in this and even tho you may not want to, you need to leave, for the sake of yourself and your child, because no matter the reasion, he should not be hitting you. If he has problems in any of the area's I've mentioned, tell him to get some help if he want to contiue the marrige.

Answer 3

My husband does not hit people. He doesn't believe in it. I on the other hand do believe in hitting, especially hitting back. I do not believe in spanking or teaching children violence, so if he's hitting you in front of your child, he's a wifebeater in training. I am gonna tell you this only once. You have obviously backed down in the past, this fuels his fire. When he least expects it I want you to take all of your might, swing with an open fist, and right before you make contact (with his face) ball up your fist. I mean really hit him with your might, not your strength. Stand your ground don't back down and follow up with a "If you ever have the nerve to raise your hand to me again I will break you're ******* fingers." You have to stand up for yourself you're a human being and not one other person in this world has the right to treat you that way. Hurry before it's too late.

Answer 4

Maybe because he got tired of reading a long A$$ letter from you that did not have proper punctuations. I read your comments and I only found one period (.) and it is not even for the right sentence that needed question mark (?). Your English grammar, punctuations and spelling sucked big time. That is why he hit you!!! And... there is no such word as " wifes". The correct/proper plural for wife is "wives". Leave him, go back to school, learn proper English and move on. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

your husband has a problem. you need to seek counseling / if he refuses to go with you- i would find a shelter and/ or family to help. being hit is not right and it is not normal.yes, it will get worse unless you do something to stop it. do you want your child to think that hitting you is okay? that hitting people when you are angry is the way to solve problems? the next person in your home that will be hit is your child. think about it- get help now.

Answer 6

men and even some women hit because they get a feeling of POWER out of it....... there is really no other explanation for it.... and there certainly is NO excuse for it..... you need to get out of the situation before it gets out of control... if he hits he hits and sooner or later he will hit more and more often.. there are places to go and ppl out there to help..... find a shelter or go to your parents or a friends... You need help just has much as your husband, not because you did anything wrong, but because what he has and is doing to you and your child..... think of that baby.... does that baby deserve to have to live this way ?? and do you ? the violence is your husbands problem NOT yours ... YOU can NOT change him... LOVE does not hit or hurt......... go seek help before you or baby get really hurt or killed....... God bless

Answer 7

yes..it'll get worse. does he drink? Drugs?
next time he hits you call 911. hes nothing but a mouse, NOT a man. Not all men act this way. just the ones with little penises
and had bad lives growing up. And, now they're grown up they feel the need to take it out on who evers in the way. Your man needs therapy......or a MAJOR *** beating by real men.

I feel for you........really.

Answer 8

1) He is a bully and a coward
2) Have his sorry punk *** sent to Riker's Island Prison in NY. (They will turn him into a instant *****!!)
3) Leave him.
4) Relocate to another state
5) Avoid him at all cost!!
6) Restraining order
7) Make friends with ex soldiers!!

Answer 9

This should not even be happening to you at all! He is not a real man by doing this to you. You dont deserve it at all! Seems to me he has a low self esteem and it makes him feel better about himself by doing this. Yes it will get worse and much worse! You need to get out now and to a safe house. Seek help and counseling too! GET OUT NOW!

Answer 10

My ex husband hit me, he wasn't a man...neither is your husband. trust me when i say LEAVE!!!!! It will never get better and it will never change!!! AND, the grass is greener on the other side, my husband now is the perfect man. He would never ever hit me. If fact he treats me like a princess!!!

Answer 11

There are many causes for domestic violence, some of them are history of physical abuse as a child, alcoholism or drug abuse or if he is cheating and he feels that you are just in his way.

I'm sorry for what is happening to you. Please seek help, violence is unacceptable in all circumstances, fear for your safety since violence can escalate.

I know that is hard to reach out for help because you love this person and perhaps you feel guilty if you seek help. Love should not be this way, and whether or not you want to accept it,he is physically abusing you.

Get yourself out of harms way. If you feel that you are in imminent danger call the Police. I urge you to seek help. Please do.