Miscarriage?

Question

I suffered a miscarriage over Easter it has been hard to get over and still is. I have been told of so many numbers i can phone but they dont help any advice??

I have been given details of support groups but dont wanna go to them as i ain the best when speakin in groups

My boyfriend has been great i was the strong one for him and he has kept goinn strong we talk about it and i ave seen how badly it affected him but he is beginning to get over it as we talk bout it but i ave not been able to fully grieve in front of him as i feel like he sees me as bein strong

Answer 1

I am sorry for your loss, I suffered two miscarriages within 6 months of each other, both hit me really badly. It is good to talk to people you know, they will listen and try to understand, it is very difficult to get over something like this but the pain will ease in time. I am sure that your family are there for you as well as your boyfriend, the thing you must remember is that you will have another chance for a baby, you may be scared of trying again but in a lot of cases pregnancies after miscarriages are absolutely fine.

It truly is so difficult knowing the right things to say, you may find that people put their foot in it or are abrupt with you, this is their problem, don't let it upset you even more, but mainly remember it is not your fauly, so many people blame themselves unnecessarily.

Whatever happens I wish you all the best and hope that you find a way to deal with everything, I am sure you have had lots of advise from people, but in the end you have to come to terms with your loss in your own way

Answer 2

i have the perfect answer for you, i have read some of the replies listed i have never been in your shoes so could not even begin to feel what you are going through, but i think here is the perfect opp to contact the people who ansered your question and talk to them on a one to one basis on msn messanger you want have to do the group thing and these people now what you are going through and can help and uderstand good luck hope this has helped

Answer 3

Im sorry to hear about your miscarriage! I had one the week b4 christmas. I have only been able to grieve when ive been alone. I already have a son, who is two and a half. Most people have said 'Well at least you can try again!' but it doesnt make things any easier! I am currently suffering from depression (and have done for over 5years) and see my sons health visitor once a week and still cant talk to her about my miscarriage, it still hurts as much as it did the day i was told i had miscarried. We are still trying for another baby, but im scared. Maybe we could have a chat one day..through email or if you have msn or yahoo messenger. my yahoo address is: [e-mail]. Dont worry if you dont want to. I hope you feel better soon!!!

Answer 4

I have had 4 miscarriages and it is hard to get over it, people say never mind try again they dont seem to understand .i dont think you can get over a miscarriage. these people who give advice. dont know what you have been through they tell you this and tell you that. what you will have to do is take each day as it comes. but you will always think about it. and it will always be in the back of your mind just take each day has it comes and you will be fine..........take care. and i am so sorry for your loss........

Answer 5

Tell him that you are not strong & he needs to be a little bit more supportive. you could also try to get pregnant again.

Answer 6

I wish I knew what to say, this is a pain I doubt I could cope with. You are stronger than me - be stronger still. You can get through this if you believe you can.

Answer 7

i really feel for you. i had a miscarriage about 3 years ago and it still hurts. what makes it worse is that i'll never be able to carry a child full term. i don't think you ever really get over it, but you just need to remember that there are others round about you who are concerned and you need to keep it together for them. how is your partner dealing with it? can you talk to him? he has just lost a little one too so will be feeling your grief.

Answer 8

hi it is the most horrible thing to through, i had 3 miscarriages be fore i had 2 healthy children, i took it one day at a time, i have never forgot the little angels that i lost ,but i have come to realise that they just werent meant to be , you will have a child one day when the time is right ,so dont give up hope ,and just try to enjoy yourlife again soon

Answer 9

Saying ''i'm so sorry for you'' doesnt help; i know, as i suffered a miscarriage many years ago. Everyone deals with it in different ways - you will find your way. The way i dealt with it was to plant a tree in my garden; everytime it flowers, i feel a sense of closeness to what i felt i had lost. I thought my world had ended but now, looking back, i realise that it wasnt my time to be a mum. I now have four healthy children but i will never forget the 'special' one. It does help to talk to other people who have been through the same thing, although you dont want to talk about it at first - its too raw. I wish you all the luck for the future xxx

Answer 10

My wife suffered a miscarriage many years age but I still remember how difficult it was for her and myself. My only advice is take each day as it comes. It gets better but you never forget. Be careful you do not put yourself and partner under to much stress to get pregnant again. You have done it once you will be able to do it again. Good luck.