Been with a guy 4 mths, just come out of a 7 yr relationship and met this guy a few weeks later. We have taken it very slow, but he mentioned the other day he didnt want serious and didnt think I was look for that either (I dont know what I want but I want to be in a relationship thats going somewhere otherwise whats the point I could be single and dating again). I like the guy loads but he ignored me the other night saying he was tooo drunk, then sunday met me and my mates and blurted out he had booked a holiday with his mates. Maybe i have assumed we are going somewhere, how do i play it from now on???? To be honest everytime he wants to see me ive made myself available because i like him loads shall i cool off to keep him???? My last BF said he didnt want a serious relationship then there was 7 yrs later???
2006-06-06 03:51:38 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
End it if you are in a rush to get somwhere...
Most of the time we just fool ourselves that the relationship is temporary. As long as we are allowed that thought and nothing shatters this illusion you could get a good mileage out of us.
Men love the illusion that their current partner is not their last.
2006-06-06 03:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by yevgenytnc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy's been dead straight with you and has obviously picked up on the fact that you're a 'nice girl'. Let him go and take some time out. It will take you 7 months minimum to get over 7 years so love yourself for a while and get your head together. It's tempting to replace the gap with anything that shows up. Don't! You'll feel so compromised and your hurt won't heal properly. Have a holiday yourself and go on a voyage of discovery to find out who you are separate from a guy and what you want. Join a gym, having beauty treatments get ready for a new love. your destiny awaits but it's not a casual on off thing that will get you there. Do everything you can to build your self-esteem. Read some of Iyanla Vanzant's and John Gray's books available on Amazon. Give yourself all that love and fill up til you've got extra to offer someone else. Take care of you and your heart.
2006-06-07 04:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd back off probably. Let him come to you. Are you wanting to get married? I mean....in reality that's not necessary. I don't know how old you are though and if you are planning on having children. He may not want a "relationship" like that right now but I have a feeling he might think differently when you aren't so available. Good luck to you.
2006-06-06 04:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well abcence makes the heart grow fonder so while hes away he will probably miss you loads and when he comes back sit him down and talk to him, tell him exactlly how you feel and ask how he feels. If he does want to be with you then thats great but if he doesn't want to be with you then thats also great you can go out and flirt meet someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea, believe me i know
2006-06-12 22:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by sj_walker2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you are possibly lacking in self confidence and feel you should be gratefull to have a b/f. All you really want is someone to love you. It's not enough. You have to see yourself for the beautiful and wonderful individual you are and realise that you deserve the best man for YOU. Because you do not treat yourself with respect, men will not respect you, and when they don't respect you they will use you. There will be a man waiting out there to really give you the love you deserve, but first you have to learn to love yourself. You do not NEED any man and once you realise you will find one.x
2006-06-06 05:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's booked a holiday without you and says he doesn't want a serious relationship, then I would believe him. Tell him you want more than that and move on.
Don't waste your time or your energy on someone who isn't your soulmate. Go out there and look for Mr Right, don't settle for Mr Rightnow.
Life is too short
2006-06-06 03:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 07:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you book a holiday with your friends? See how he reacts.Sit back and relax a bit...Show that you can be as cooled as him. If that doesn't work-tell him how you feel and work things out from there. If things don't work out then there is plenty more fish in the sea!
2006-06-06 04:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has only been 4 months. SLOW DOWN. Don't make yourself so available to him, do something with your own friends. Clingy is never good. A little mystery is interesting.
If he is interested let him work for it a little, if he doesn't he isn't the one for you.
2006-06-06 03:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone moves at there own pace.
However if this is bugging you, just have a word with him, don't do anything to brash, you may regret it.
2006-06-06 03:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋