2006-06-06 03:49:06 · 9 answers · asked by Patrick M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no but that does not mean you can not make it better.
with help and learning WHY one party strayed you can learn to help your partner.
The book
His Needs, Her Needs, By Willard Harley Jr is a great place to start.
it talks about the parts of a marriage. about how each of you have a (LOVE BANK) and how daily you make deposits and withdrawels.
if your partner is Overdrawn then your supseptable to an affair. while the partner with a large deposit has no reason to stray.
It also talks about the (5 basic needs) each partner has in the relationship. how you address those (NEEDS) and all 5 have to be met to have marrital health.
The second Book you can read is
The 5 Love Languages, By Chapman
this talks about (HOW) you communicate (LOVE) to each otehr and how you interpet how some one (LOVES YOU) great book.
You can also get marrital counciling which is my first suggestion. along with the books. a counciler can help address the trust issue. as well as help establish checks and balances so you can move forward or move on.
God Bless
2006-06-06 03:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sully 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some people work it out trhough counseling and they get back on track. I've seen people sucessfully getting over it, forgiving and reconecting if the other is truly sorry and he/she is sure that it won;t happen again. The other person needs to be able to let go and forgive...it's hard but possible.
Other people cannot get over it because, the trust is gone, some people go back to their cheating ways, or some others are unable to forgive and forget. Some others are more practical and cut off the strings when it happends, some others stick around for years making each other miserable.
Decide if you are willing to give it a chance, go to couseling and re-commit, or if there is no way of patching things up.
Good luck
2006-06-06 11:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think so, because that destroys the trust. The spouse of the cheater will always wonder if hes going to do it again, if hes going to be where he says he is, or if he's lying, who knows? You could make it work but the worry will always be there that he or she may do it again, is that something that your ready to battle for the rest of your life?
2006-06-06 14:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by vclassi2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage itself can be, but the trust isn't fully there anymore.
2006-06-06 10:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, but it might be a twist to make your love even stronger and be more honest with each other.
2006-06-06 10:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by swish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it can work out to be better in the end.
2006-06-06 10:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, coz the trust won't be there - the essence of a successful relationship.
2006-06-06 11:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to be in that position and then i think each person will have a different feeling - I don't think anyone can answer for you - only to you about themselves.
2006-06-06 10:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Q Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not be the same...the trust is gone.
2006-06-06 11:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by mick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋