My husband, children, and I attended a wedding over the weekend. The bride was my husbands sister and the groom was someone she never bothered to introduce to us. She knew him about two weeks before he went overseas (he's in the army) and decided to get married while he was back on leave. My husband was an usher while I kept an eye on our kids. The guest book attendant brought her daughter with her and asked my MIL if anyone would be able to keep an eye on her and she was told to send her daughter over to me. (I didn't even the person) Before I knew it, it seemed I was responsible for everyone's children. Normally, this would not bother me, but I hurt my back the day before and already had my hands full with my children, especially my 2 year old. I did not say anything and managed to keep track of all the kids. When we got to the reception site, I really got upset. There were two rooms, one being for family and the other for friends. In the family room, the tables were reserved.
2006-06-06 03:39:54 · 6 answers · asked by cutiemama4597 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There was not a table for us. There was one small table reserved for the ushers. There also happened to be many non-family tables reserved in the family room. I did not want to ruin my sister in law's day by throwing a huge fit, but I did feel really hurt by this. My husband did at one point say something to his mother and she told him that he had a spot reserved at the usher table. He then told her that it was not right for them to place him in there but not the rest of us. Again, during the reception, everyone seemed to send their kids over to us just expecting us to watch them so they could enjoy themselves. At one point, I sent my other sister in laws son back over and told him to tell his mom and dad that we were not going to watch him. My mother in law called my husband on Sunday night crying, telling him that I yelled at her over the seating arrangements. (Which I didn't) No one even talked to me the whole day. So I called my MIL yesterday morning to clear things up.
2006-06-06 03:48:31 · update #1
When I let her know how we felt by not being included she got really mad at me. I kept trying to avoid an argument with her about it but she just coming up with excuses why it was ok. Finally I simply told her that we got the message that we are not family. Then she proceeded to tell me that the wedding was not about me and that it was his sister's day. That is when I lost it, and I told her off. I never even insinuated that the day was supposed to be about me, I was just letting her know how it made us feel. My husband agrees fully with me on this and so do the few people we have talked to to. Would you have been upset in this situation? Also, keep in mind, we did not throw a fit about it because we didn't want to ruin the day.
2006-06-06 03:55:10 · update #2
Sounds to me like everything was kinda thrown together on short notice. Also sounds like you were mighty gracious about the whole affair. I would have sat anywhere. At least it is behind you now and you have learned something about your mother in law. Be proud your husband stands beside you but be ready to forgive if she comes and asks for it. She is his mother no matter what and you never want to be pointed to as the unforgiving, cruel daughter in law. By the way, I bet the bride didn't even know all that stuff was going on.
2006-06-06 04:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-06-13 08:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by mustang9588 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be upset. Who wants to baby sit a bunch of strangers' kids at a wedding? Your mother in law shouldn't have said you would watch other people's kids. Sounds like a really annoying wedding, be glad it's over! p.s. It was very nice of you to do that even though you shouldn't have been put in that position.
2006-06-06 10:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was way wrong of them to impose on you without asking. You should have said something at the time, since you didn't, you can't hold it against them now. They can reasonably assume that since you didn't say anything that it was ok with you.
2006-06-06 10:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by thepathfinder804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT WAS WRONG
I WOULD OF SENT THE CHILDREN RIGHT BACK TO THE PARENTS
2006-06-06 10:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did your MIL say?
2006-06-06 10:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋