wut would u do if u no longer had da same feelings 4 ur boyfriend & had strong feelings 4 ur best friend?? :)?

Question

ok i'm dating a guy who is really great but i never really had loving feelings for him. and i truely think i am in love with my best friend and i'm sure he knows it but he dosen't like to talk about it, i think its because he dosen't want to ruin a good friendship but, i really want to be with him. and the guy i'm dating, i think he suspects that i have feelings for my friend and he'll give me this huge attitude about it and then we get into an argument. so wut i'm asking is: Should i give up a really nice boyfriend to try and go after someone who won't even tell me their real opinion on our relationship? please give me the honest truth in my crazy little love triangle.... and i would give anything to tell my best friend that i love him, tips on that would be very helpful

Answer 1

If you have serious feelings for someone else, your relationship with your boyfriend is not what it should be anyway. The first step is to end that relationship as nicely as possible. Hanging onto him when you don't feel what you should is selfish. Once you have dealt with that situation, see what develops with your friend. He may not want to be with you when you have someone else, or be afraid you won't choose him and then it would be weird. Good Luck

Answer 2

There are two things at a time you do rather play with the sanctity of love.You can never travel in two boats.decide what direction you want to go.One is disaster while the other is pure and safe.you take things for granted saying that it is a love triangle. not at all.Try to be wise and choose the best because life is not a joke and you will never regret afterwards.How dare you are to say that you want to date with a fellow who is great in what sense? And you do not have the feeling of love for him means that you value the greatness of someone who is big or rich.What is your motivation.When You are truly think that You are in love with your best friend, You are very well know that he knows it and he doesn't want to tell You means he does not want you to get offend even by a harsh words. He is the true lover and accept him lady. please forget the man who only wanted have a dating with you.
As you have said correctly your true friend does not want to ruin your good friendship means that he is really great. A true and real friendship with love is in my opinion is doubly great with that of the anticipated dating fellow please.

Answer 3

I think that before you break it off with your boyfriend, you should sit and have a very long discussion with your best friend! Tell him how you feel about him,and find out if he feels the same for you. If he does then that would be WONDERFUL!!! If not ,then the two of you can stay friends if you want too! This way you are not giving your boyfriend up before you find out the true facts!
Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

honestly - I think you should be honest with both of them and yourself...if you don't love your boyfriend you don't have to be with him just because he's a really nice guy and if you really love your best friend you should explain him how you feel - true this could ruin your friendship but you'll know where you stand and then you won't regret not doing it and ask yourself what would have been if...

does that make any sense? any way - if you want to play safe keep the situation as it is...if you tell them you'll probably lose your boyfriend and may be your friend as well, but at least you'll be true

Answer 5

well have you told ur bestfriend how you felt? I think you 2 need to talk about it. I know this maybe selfish but I understand what you going through. But in another word you should be honest with yourself about your boyfriend. You just don't feel it anymore for him you should stop stringing him along. Your only going to end up hurting him. And once you tell ur best friend how you feel you can move on from there. But if your best friend doesn't agree with you and wants to keep it friends maybe it's time for you to be on ur own a bit find urself. Don't keep a man around just because he is good, keep him around because you want to be with him.

Answer 6

Talk to your best friend & ask whether he have the same feelings for you. Let your Boyfriend know how u feel about him that you prefer to see someone else rather than hanging on a relationship u don't want. It's his problem if he gives u a big attitude, It shows that you don't deserve him.

Answer 7

I had a great friend, I'm 22 and he is 29. We were so friends and were for all the day together, because we were in the same University. He had his girlfriends and I had my boyfriends, but we spend most of time together.
You know what?
Now my boyfriend, or better my lover is my best friend. We are so good together, I have never loved someone like him, and I know that he loves me too.

Best regards

Answer 8

gee this is a real touchy question..i think i would go with my heart if you are positive but in the end you may lose them both.. if you have been having sexual intercourse with this one boy and yet want to be with your other friend...you need to stop and think about what you are doing??? and it already does not sound good that your boyfriend gets mad when you bring up the subject.. i wish i knew your age...actually i would stay with the nice boyfriend and just remain friends with the other boy .. as you said he has given you no reason to believe he cares about you in any other way..i think going out with your friend you would get hurt in the end...and the last thing you need is to be in a crazy little love triangle.. you have to think about the consequences, what could happen with whatever actions you decide to take...but it is your decison... i tried to answer honestly...and hope i have helped you a little anyway....if you care about your boyfriend at all , you do need to think about that too...

Answer 9

well, i think you should dump your boyfriend and move on with your best friend. if he dosent like you the same way you like him, you might ruin the friendship..but life is all about taking risks, and why be fake to a really nice guy that you dont really love? so move on. go for the bestfriend, ditch the b/f and if your bestfriend dosent feel the same way, there is always someone else out there...

Answer 10

whatever it is....you do not latch on to one person and seaching for another. You deal with a relationship on a one on one basis. Otherwise, it would be cheating!! If you have issues with your bf you work it out if not end it before you start another one. Having a relationship is not like shopping in a mall during sale. You do not try to grab as many articles and decide later which one you really wanted....Have some consideration regarding other people 's feeling not just your own!!