I'm 33 and still a virgin. Is there something wrong with me?

Question

They're people half my age who have lost it. I plan to wait until marriage but I'm still single. I'm a handsome, honest , and loyal guy, just very shy.

I'm surprised that some people think I'm making this up. Seriously, this is not a joke. And I'm not asexual, I'm attracted to women.

Answer 1

Handsome, honest, loyal and secure enough in his masculinity to keep it in his pants? Can I have your phone number?
The girl who said it would be a turn off doesn't know what she is talking about. There is no reason to be ashamed of waiting for marriage, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You don't need to "get out there" and "play the field", unless you are just dying to go out and do it. And the thing about physical compatibility: why do people think that if a couple is not having sex that they are not physical? There are lots of ways to be physical without having sex. Sex itself is not really that big a deal unless you make it one. It's really fun; don't get me wrong; it's just not THAT big a deal. There are other ways to be intimate without having sex.

Answer 2

You said it. They LOST. Don't give away a most precious gift. If a woman doesn't value your virginity then she doesn't have values you need in a woman. I would hope that you were virgin because you are saving it for marriage. What a gift to give! Esp. if the woman is also a virgin! I didn't wait. I married a virgin and I'm not. It has been hell for me. I should have waited! What a moron I was. I wish I had known. It's not finding the right person, it's being the right person. Let her find you. Don't be desperate or shy. Be confident that you are doing the right thing. Marry someone you respect and who respects you. Sex will be great! Best Wishes!

Answer 3

Nah, nothing wrong with you. It's great that you're holding firm to your values, even though the time is passing. Don't try to compare your sexual status with others that have no values.

Rather than focusing on that, perhaps you should give some thought to why you're so shy. It sounds like that's holding you back from meeting girls (which make the likelihood of marriage low). Perhaps if you could meet them in a safer setting it would help you open up more - somewhere like a church or a special interest group, rather than the aggressive bar scene. Also, try to focus less on yourself, and more on their interests. You don't need to be a great conversationalist...just ask them questions about their life and you'll be surprised how much less shy you will seem. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Here is the reality.

You're shyness is not getting you anywhere. You always commit to do something that will further your life towards your goals but don't keep the diff commitments. The way you are going now is not going to break the cycle in the near future.

You need to stamp down on your laziness. Do something, like work if you're not, change careers, or get into a better circle of friends. You probably live a very closed life.

This is what you have to do.

Make one resolution and keep it.

Respect the dating system in your culture.

Go to a different culture and learn and respect their dating system. If you are Indian, you will find it easier going to a more deprived country such as Bangladesh etc... or if you're western, go to the east, or Africa.

Answer 5

Absolutely nothing wrong. Well done. I'm a Christian so I think waiting until marriage is absolutely the right thing to do. I wouldn't be surprised if I'm still a virgin at 33. Shyness doesn't have to stop you meeting the right person so just see what happens.

Answer 6

No.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with you. It is called having some honor. Most people today don't give a crap they just run out and have sex with anyone and anything. So look at the bright side you aren't the one getting the diseases. Oh and make sure the girl gets a blood test before the marriage so you know what you are getting into as far as STDs.

Answer 8

No there is nothing wrong with you . It is great to still be a virgin. When you do final find the right person it will all be worth it. With all the different diseases out there. It is great. For you to be a man and still a virgin, you have guts When you do settle down and get married, your wife will see that you are all the things you say you are. Wish there were more men like you out there.God Bless You .

Answer 9

I personally think that waiting until marriage is not the best idea. How would you know if you are physically compatible with that person? There is a huge element of intimacy not there if you wait. I would not want to marry someone without having shared the most intimate closeness first.

It's great until you find the right person..but the right person does not necessarily mean the one you marry.

Answer 10

I don't think there is something wrong with you, but you are going to have to find a wonderful woman who is not judgemental at all. Most women are turned off by an inexperienced man. You should look for a virgin or a woman that has really good morals and values. Good luck.

Answer 11

well, at your age- its TIME to get OUT THERE!!!!! take an assertiveness training class, sign up for a chinese cooking class, or join a hiking club etc etc. these are places to meet quality singles.
(ps... losing it isnt nearly as fabulous as some make it sound. the truth is, the first time you 'do it' you have no experience, so you dont know what your doing etc etc. Hopefully you find a gal similar to you that doesnt have alot of ex's. then you can learn together but good grief man, DO IT!
you will wonder why you waited so long!