what to do?

Question

my bf wants to have sex with me ,but i dont like it as it is against my attitude but in the same time i like him a lot and i dont want to dissapoint him what should i do

Answer 1

Its really rather easy. Just tell him that you care for him very much but your just not ready to have a sexual relationship. When i was younger i was dating a guy 2 years older then me who had broken out of a sexual relationship to be with me, but i was still a virgin. I told him i wasn't ready and although it was frustrating for him he understood and let me take things at my own pace. I married him two years later =) If he says he can't wait for you then tell him that he will lose you. If he thinks losing you is worth a quick sexual interaction then he isn't the one your ment to be with and not worth your time any ways. Condradulations on your decision. Just stay firm on your beliefs and let him know ifs not becuase you aren't attracted to him or becuase you'r scared. It's becuase you respect yourself enough to wait until your ready.

Answer 2

if you not being ready to have sex, makes him leave you, then so be it, he was just in it for the wrong reason. MOST young guys are in it JUST for sex, i have gone through a few 'boyfriends' because i wouldnt give it up. look at this as your relationships test, this will prove how much he loves you, if he really cares about you, he may be dissapointed, but thats OK, he'll get over it, but he will still want to be with you, that is what real love is, and if he tells you no sex no relationship, then tell him bye bye. and then you would have realized what kind of guy he was before you gave it up to someone who doesnt really care about YOU

Answer 3

Take my advice and don't do it. I was in your same situation and I went ahead and gave my virginity to a complete jerk. I pretty much did it so I could get it over with. It hurt and wasn't at all enjoyable.

Now that I'm married to my husband, I really wished I had waited for him. I know it's hard to realize it now, but any guy that pressures you to have sex with, is not the man for you. If this guy, only wants to be with you just to have sex, then you shouldn't be with him. Believe me, one day you will find the right somebody and it will the best thing ever. Don't make the same mistake I did. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 4

If you don't want to do it DON'T DO IT!! First of all you should be married before you have sex, I know that isn't the "norm" these days but you should wait. If he doesn't understand he's not worth being with in the first place.

Answer 5

Don't do it. If you are not ready and give in just to make your boyfriend happy, you will be disappointed in yourself. Tell him he needs to back down on this subject and that if he loves you he will repect your decision. If he can't do this, then he isn't the guy for you. Guys will tell you all kinds of things to get you to cave in. If he says, "If you love me you'll do it." Say, "If you love me you'll respect my decision to wait." If he says, "Are you a baby" or "Come on, aren't you grown." You say, "I'm mature enough to make my own decision, and I'm deciding not to have sex yet." If he says he is in pain from not having sex, tell him you know that is a myth. Good Luck, kudos to you for waiting.

Answer 6

don't go against what you believe. don't have sex. if your bf really loves you he will stay with or without sex.

Answer 7

if he loves you the same way you love him then he should understand why you don't want to have sex...... anyways havin sex for the first few times HURT

Answer 8

dont have sex with him if u dont want 2.

Answer 9

please please listen to me. DONT DO IT. it is not worth it at all. believe me when i say that ANY MAN who makes you have sex with him to get him to stay will never stay in the end.

i waited until i was married, and even though we were engaged, even though i was 20, even though it was 8 hours before our wedding, even though i wanted to give in and have sex, my husband honored my request to wait until we were married. Even if i crawled on him naked he wouldnt have sex with me until we got married.

When you find that you find the right person.

Answer 10

depends on your society and cultural background.
my advice is to think whether this will matter to the man who will eventually be your husband (hint: he may not be this bf or the next one, or the next one after that ...)