How can I make my wife enjoy sex?

Answer 1

You can't 'make' a person do something or feel a certain way...

The first thing you should do is find out what she likes and does not like in the bedroom. Maybe you aren't being attentive or romantic enough. Women like a lot of touching and physical contact. (You verbally need to ask her, but you also need to pay attention when you are actually having sex. You do need to look for less obvious signs as to whether or not she likes what you are doing...'body language'. Is she moaning, squirming or thinking about paying bills?)

Maybe things have become routine and boring, at which point I suggest getting books and movies to spice things up. You could even buy her a toy or two...

Like I said, first and foremost find out what she likes because if you walk in the door with a movie and that's not her style, she's going to think you are a jerk.

With (most) women, sex is not 'just' about the act...it has emotional ties...You might want to find out if she's ticked off at you about something or if she's seeing someone else. -Both of these reasons can explain her withdrawing from you physically.

You could take her on vacation. Sometimes hotel rooms are more exciting that your normal spot, plus it should help her relax and focus on the two of you. You could try it in different locations around your house if you can't afford to go on vacation...

Some people prefer public displays of affection...you could try it a bit and see if she likes it.

Just think of new and creative ways to spice up your relationship. I'm sure you'll think of something.

Btw, do not listen to people who are giving you tips on HOW to have sex with your wife....Not every woman is the same. You should know your wife better than we do. Ask her before you start changing your bedroom habits or she's sure to think you are having an affair (or be totally poed at you for posting your problem publically).

Again, 1. Ask Her 2. Touch her more, 3. Take her for a relaxing evening 4. Buy a book/movie/toys to spice things up or just find some place new and exciting to do it.

Answer 2

Make her enjoy sex. Not going to happen. If your idea of sex is based on your own personal gain than go on to the other responses because you will not understand the below.
If you want to please and enjoy her gift than read on.

Below are bits and pieces of experiences that I have had. You might need to read one thing think about it then read another and so on. They are based on knowledge, communication and stimulation.

Its your wife. You know her past sexual experiences, her mental and physical being. You know when her good and bad days are. What makes her smile and cry. If you don't know HER then ask but most of all listen to her.
Sex with someone you truly love should go beyond just intercourse. Sex starts with communication and continues thru to your 5 senses.
Don't limit communication to just your wife but always include her in what you say and learn. Watch movies, read books, and talk with friends that you trust. Then share what you have learned.
Learn to stimulate her 5 senses. Learn exactly what they are and how to enhance and separate a particular one from the rest. Slow down. Orgasm is a nice place but it should not always be the goal. The slightest movement in either of your bodies have the largest affect.
When you find something that works don't abuse it but never forget it.

Answer 3

Its irony since mankind emerged and social institutes such as marriages emerged in the society that man enjoy the first part of the real life movie "THE MARRIAGES" then slowly loses interest in the sex and less caring to their wife. similarly the wife also loses interest whatosoever be the reasons be it the caring needs of the children or the ignorance of thier husbands in the act of sex. Aftersome time it normally happens that the for a husband every second lady/girls other than his wife looks Merylin Monroe or Madhuri Dixit. Even the female servant start looking more appealing than his wife. And the husband starts questioning her losing interest in sex. This may be either. Its normal tendency in this world full of options they start thinking having missed the bus by seeing other prettier faces. Dear its better to explore first yourself, your sex behaviour towards your wife then discuss with your wife about her problems in bed, be open share your fantacies with her and ask her if she had if any. A women loves lot of foreplay, touches, kisses, warm, smooth & hard pressings to her body. sweet bitings all over body, kisses, tickling over her smooth & sensitive parts, toe kissing, knee smooching, sniffing & smooching her vaginal area, sucking & pressing her boobs, licking her ear pinna, deep kissing her mouth and licking her toungue. kissing and biting her buttocks, 36 position i.e u licking her vagina and she sucking your penis will definately work. Also changing your daily routine sex postures might work may i tell u THE CROW POSITION in which she's sitting in your lap, your chest pressing her allows deep penetration and will make her moaning and sweet screaming too intense you just had to thump her from below. Try this discuss with her and change your routine sex behaviour. If she hesitates in telling her desires notice it out during sex while trying all this and observe the points, the acts where she moans & give more response these are her arousal points. Note: -Diffrerent women have diffrent likes and dislikes, but every women likes caring and innovative and always attentive sex parteners. BEST of wishes.

Answer 4

By being (Romantic) NOT (Forcing), take the time out to set the mood. Light some candles, by some flowers, take her out to eat (somewhere she can dress up to go), increase 4play, in essence make it about her. In doing this both you and her will enjoy sex more. Although she is your wife, think of it as “old tricks in a New game” what worked when you where dating, more than likely will work in your marriage.

Answer 5

The Female Orgasm – Elusive, exclusive, desired by all!

Questions on the female orgasm are never in short supply. Many women and their partners are in the dark as to the mechanism and the achievement of this elusive pleasure. Orgasm is the peak of sexual excitement. It is actually a series of rapid rhythmic muscular contractions resulting in waves of intense pleasure through the whole body. It can occur while having sexual intercourse with someone or by masturbation. In males it usually results in ejaculation. Some women can have several orgasms one after the other (multiple orgasm). The level of intensity of an orgasm may vary from woman to woman.

Physiologically there are three phases of sexual response, which can be identified in the female. The first phase, the excitement phase, produces vaginal lubrication and the vagina enlarges to accommodate the penis during intercourse. In the second - the plateau phase – the breathing and heart rate become more rapid, with feelings of high arousal. The third, orgasmic phase brings the orgasm as a result of the build up of body tension and is a series of rapid rhythmic muscular contractions. Not all women react in the same way, which is why it is important to get to know what pleases a partner. Orgasm comes from intense stimulation, which may or may not include sexual intercourse.

Masters and Johnson found that the only way for a woman to achieve orgasm was through clitoral stimulation, although some women have reported orgasm achieved only by vaginal stimulation. About 50% of women regularly have an orgasm during sexual intercourse and the rest do not. Many women require additional clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse and may find that by changing positions during the act they get that extra stimulation. Some women have orgasms by masturbating, using a vibrator or oral sex. The most important thing to remember is that sex is not judged on whether the female partner has an orgasm or not. It is no reflection on her as a woman nor is it a reflection on the male partner’s masculinity or skill as a lover.

It is also true that orgasm can be elusive in women who have communication problems in their relationship. Issues such as guilt, resentment and stress can all contribute to lack of orgasm. Therapy for this problem is sometimes helpful and may bring positive results. There is no question that the media has sensationalised the issue of female orgasm and has created feelings of inadequacy and expectation that are unrealistic. The bottom line is that females do not all achieve orgasm by vaginal penetration alone. This is a fact of life and women and their partners need to understand this clearly and create inventive ways for orgasm to be reached as part of their sexual repertoire.

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Answer 6

well for starters, noone knows your wife more than you do.find out what she likes and what she dislikes.maybe she had a bad past that make her not to like sex or it could be something else.try doing something different with her.give her a nice bath with candles.show her u really do love her. there a lot you can do.work it out.

Answer 7

Make the evening ALL about her. Start with champagne and shrimp. Candles, a little Tony Bennett. Rub her shoulders and neck. Let her know that you are in NO hurry. Rub her feet. Sooth them with lotion. Kiss her all over. Let your tongue do the talking. Make her *** twice before you ever get undressed. Then give her what she wants, how she wants it, and as long as she wants it. Repeat this evening once a week for a month before you ever make any advances as to what you want.

Answer 8

You need to get in tune with what she likes have an open conversation about this ask her what she prefers and why she doesnt seem to enjoy it as soon as the communication flows things should get a lot better

Answer 9

By making her feel sexy everyday wether you want sex or not. If you only pay interest in your wife when it is time for sex she will feel undesirable and loose a bit of interest. If you make her feel desirable she will be much more likely to really want sex. x

Answer 10

You need to take her out for a night on the town and wine and dine her then get her to talk to you about sex and what she likes. Then when you have the chance to have sex do all the things she likes and please her and make her want you because you made her happy. Or you could just get her a dildo!