im thinking of selling my house and moving in with woman hitler (mother in law) what should i do?

Question

got to do a course for three years and my wage will drop a lot should i sell my house stick the cash in the bank do the course and move in with my mother in law wife in toe obviously till the course is finished then i can buy a bigger house cause im earing more help

Answer 1

hard to say. do it unless your mother in law is a real woman hitler as you call her.
but if you've already had disputes before, i'd say you don't. cuz what is a life of hell with more money in your pocket? just a life of hell.
i've been living with my mother in law for a year and she was always interfering in our lives. it determined us to move into a new apartment, smaller but ours only.

Answer 2

I figure if ur asking for help on here u don't actually feel 100% on the move , have u discussed this with ur wife maybe she isn't aware of how strong u actually feel about this move.Also you could just rent out your house or even sell an buy smaller for now ul still have some cash an ur own home another option is just plain renting u could let ur own house get a smaller place for yourself which the rent from ur own home would cover after all its only 3 years but if ur living with someone U hate 3 years could feel like a lifetime.

Answer 3

There is no need to even ask. The answer is written on the wall in black and white. NO DO NOT SELL THE HOUSE.
If I were you I would rather put it on rent and generate some cool cash out of it. The beauty about this is that it will still remain your property.
If you sold it and put your money in the bank as you say, inflation may catch up with it. So, at the end of it all, you lose the house the cash.

Answer 4

strong words. "woman hitler"!!!
Consider this: rent a smaller place AND have someone rent from you. That way you have offsetting rents and you can even stash any extra. Meanwhile the property you own is appreciating and might prove a greater asset down the road.
If you must live with you mother-in-law consider what others have said but remember that if you sell it now you are stuck there. You can always sell it later. And should things go south you'll have some where to escape to.

Answer 5

Whats your mother in law like? If you cannot handle her then do not do it, not worth it. You guys can work out the finiacial stuff some how I am sure.

If you get along well with your MIL then yes, go for it.

But I will tell you, in 23 years of marriage we never moved in with family..they did with us though, BAD for a marriage. SO it is better to remain on your own as a couple if you can do it.

I would bet you could afford to do it, just cut back on things, I assume your wife works, maybe she can work some extra hours..You will find a way. Depend on yourself and your wife at all costs.

Answer 6

What happens then if you and girlfriend split up? Where will you go... I'd think very carefully before selling my house, chances are prices will only go up, and any profit you've made on this one will have to be spent on something next time. Perhaps rent out a room for a bit of extra income, or get a house sharing lodger. Maybe get girlfriend to move in and help with bills etc.

Answer 7

Already you show that the option of moving in with the mother in law would not work and maybe prove to the start of a feud with you and mother, your poor partner. What you could do is go to the bank they can advise you and sort out your mortgage until you get better paid job. One thing is now that a friend of mine stopped her payments while she travelled and then resumed the payments when she got back, it was on the TV. But please go to the bank and sort out what options you have, maybe even down grading your home to a cheaper one that you can afford until life improves in the money area, but be care full cheaper could mean bad areas you have to check them out. Good luck and leave mother in law where she is.

Answer 8

If you're going to do it you will have to be tough enough to stand up to your mother in law (and your girlfriend when she takes her side) because there will be occasion when you will have to. If you don't you'l probably end up miserable and your relationship will fail. If you can honestly do this then it's worth a try but it won't be easy. It's a power stuggle with any over possesive mother. You will have to put your foot down right from the start but of course you will also have to be prepared to listen to her when she is being reasonable.x

Answer 9

Unless you get on extremely well with your Mother in Law, do not move into her house. Also, consider your wife's relationship with her mother. Do they see each other every day, talk on the phone a couple of times daily? If they're not close now, living together will drive them insane, you will get both sides of the argument, side with the wife and upset the mother in law . Alternatively, mother in law upsets you, you tell the wife, she sides with mum, you're in the dog kennel. You can't win.

Answer 10

woman hitler? If that is what you are calling your mother in law you are in real trouble. What about getting your name on a housing association register. In the meantime you could stick a caravan in your mother in law garden so you and your partner get some privacy together. Failing that maybe you should be looking into ways in to getting on with your mother in law...lol good luck

Answer 11

My suggestion is to remain as friendly with her as possible, but do not move in. It is a serious mistake, given the information that describe. It could go so far as to destroy your marriage, if she is as evil as you state.

If you can afford it, lease the house and rent a small apartment to live in. After your course work has been completed, you have your home back. For the tax benefits alone, this is the road that i would take.

Good luck to you.