My wife was cheating on me while I was in Iraq (Reservist). SHe said only once but called the guy for months?

Question

SHe called him for months afterwards, often. I am divorcing her anyway but I wanted to know from women if that even makes sence. That is I can't think of why she would talk to him and text him for months if she didn't continue having sex with him. She claims she didn't, I think it's another lie. ALso she was talking and texting with a younger man (different guy) that she says she never slept with but liked the attention. Sounds like a bunch of bs to me, what do you think?

SHe called him for months afterwards, often. I am divorcing her anyway but I wanted to know from women if that even makes sence. That is I can't think of why she would talk to him and text him for months if she didn't continue having sex with him. She claims she didn't, I think it's another lie. ALso she was talking and texting with a younger man (different guy) that she says she never slept with but liked the attention. Sounds like a bunch of bs to me, what do you think?
Oh buy the way I moved heaven and earth to call her everyday while I was there, I couldn't on a few occasions but that was rare. Its not like she needed someone else to talk to, I was there for her to talk to.

Oh buy the way I moved heaven and earth to call her everyday while I was there, I couldn't on a few occasions but that was rare. Its not like she needed someone else to talk to, I was there for her to talk to.

Answer 1

You where a way serving our Country. And she did these things to you. Well let me say this she has NO SINCE OF LOLLY at all.

GO ahead with your divorce.

For if she did only sleep with him once. She obviously wonted something more out of it. If she has been talking to him for three months. And as for as the attain from the younger gay. She has you why dose she need him. She's looking for something. And i don't even think she knows what it is she is looking for.

I just know that if my man was away serving my Country. I would not be cheating on him. I wold be doing every thing I could to bring him and his buddies home safe and sound.

Answer 2

That's where the chemistry comes in. (I'm generalizing here, so please don't think I'm finger-pointing.) On average, a man's greatest emotional need is sex. And, again on average, a woman's greatest emotional need is affection. These are two different things. A man who's wife refuses to give him sexual satifaction can be drawn into having an affair, and a woman who's husband refuses to give her affection can be drawn into an affair. Even if your wife was no longer having sex with this man, he may still be filling an important emotional void in her life. I'm not saying it's right for either party, but I do highly recommend the book "His Needs, Her Needs" for an in-depth look at how and why affairs generally happen. It's not a religious book, just some good, simple solutions to an unfortunately very common issue.

Answer 3

Hey there your wife is full of BS my husband came back from Iraq in Dec. I never went out I went to work and came home. Never went out and I too moved heaven and earth for his calls. I even got permission to carry my cell with me in case he called while I was at work. And the BASTARD comes home and finds someone else and now we are getting a divorce. So maybe your wife was doing my husband. Hang in there. You will find someone who loves you and will be faithful . I am looking for some one who doesn't cheat and lie. God Bless YOu. Heaven knows it is hard to deal with all this **** when you have not done any thing wrong.

Answer 4

WOW, everyone is so quick to judge... You all, have to remember we are only getting one side of the story... First of all, your wife was lonely and it doesn't matter if you were able to call her everyday and night... The fact is you weren't there... I'm not saying it was your fault... You were off doing your job... And thanks by the way.... But your wife was missing you and wanting to be with you and I'm sure that was hard... I'm not saying what she did was right.... I'm just saying she might not be such a bad person.. Your mad at her which you have every right to be... But you sound like you are a good person so that makes me think she must be too... Ya she made a mistake no doubt.... But no one is perfect.... If you still have love for her and she still has love for you don't be so quick to throw it away.... PLEASE try to work it out first....

Answer 5

Well divorcing her is probably best now, if she can go and sleep with another man while YOU were defending OUR country GOD knows what she could/would do while you are home asleep or out with your friends. I do understand being lonely if that is the case get a dog! That will take up your time. I don't understand people now days when taking vows for marriage they aren't taking it to heart they just say it and it's done.That is one of our problems today people say things all day long they just don't have the guts to stand behind what they say! Well, there ARE good women out here and you will find one!!! GOOD LUCK ! ! !

Answer 6

Sorry to hear about your cheating wife. My uncle is going through the same thing except his wife is in the military and he is not. She has had 5 affairs since they have been married. Everytime she leaves for tdy she ends up cheating on him. They have a 7 year old daughter and he is afraid of losing the child. That's why he stays in the marriage. You deserve better than that. Move on with your life. She's not commited to this marriage.

Answer 7

she may be telling the truth. she may be sorry for having gone so far with that guy, but tell her she needs to take responsablility for her actions.
--sometimes we need to talk to someone with a different perspective. --I had a friend for a while,just someone to talk to. we actually did sleep together once, there is a definite attracion, but when i talk to him every few months it is not about that. he lives far away, he has his life and now i have mine, but he is a great person for me to ask when i have problems. he has always been helpful and gives me insight to problems that i would not have without his point of view.
he was in irak a couple of years ago and we used to email very frequently, and he even called me a few times. we both know we are not looking for anything other than friendship.
ever since i had a serious relationship and then got married, we dont keep in touch anymore.
--I understand that if i were to stay in touch it may cause us to get closer and who knows? and i do not want to mess up my marriage.--
maybe your wife was going thru something similar but she should see that you are hurt, and the fact that she still is in touch with him makes it seem like she does not care.

Answer 8

It is a bunch of bs. You were out fighting in a war and she was at home getting her jollys on. You don't need someone like that. You are much better off. Even if she didn't do anything the intent was there and that is enough.

Answer 9

Honey kick her to the curb. She should be proud her husband went over seas to fight for her freedom and made it back home. You need a woman that understands you and want to be there for you when all hell breaks lose not some crazy liar. Good luck and thank you!

Answer 10

MY HUBBY JUST CAME HOME IN JAN FROM IRAQ AND I KNOW HOW LONELY SHE MAY HAVE FELT BUT THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING. IF SHE WILL CHEAT WHILE YOU ARE DODGING BULLETS AND IED'S SHE WAS A CHEATER FROM THE START. SHE IS JUST FULL OF S.H.I.T ALL MILITARY WIVES DONT CHEAT WE GO TO SUPPORT GROUPS SHE HAD PLENTY OF PPL TO LEAN ON. I KNOW ALOT OF PPL HAVE TO DEAL WITH THESE PROBLEMS WHEN THEY COME HOME, BUT I WILL SAY THIS DONT LISTEN TO THE WORLD IF YOU LOVE HER AND WANT IT TO WORK AND WANT TO FORGIVE HER FIX IT BEFORE IT'S TO LATE. I HAD TO DEAL WITH MY HUBBY BEING A INTERNET AND PHONE CHEATER OVER THERE, AND I KNOW ITS DIFFERENT WHEN THERE IS NO PHYSICAL CONTACT BUT I FELT JUST LIKE YOU, I TOO MOVED HEAVEN AND EARTH FOR HIM AND WAS PREGNANT THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS THERE. I HOPE YOU FIND PEACE AND FIND SOMEONE THAT DESERVES YOUR LOVE AND ATTENTION DONT LET HER SPOIL IT FOR THE RIGHT WOMAN, THERE ARE STILL SOME GOOD ONES OUT HERE.