Ladies, have you even been with the same man for sometime who cant say those words I Love You, even when you say it to them? Why cant they say it, do they ever say it? How do you deal with it? Does it bother you? If a man reads this please explain it from your point of view.
2006-06-06 01:46:52 · 18 answers · asked by 48yearsold 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I have..and have always felt that you can say "I love you" if you truly fell it in your heart..If a person can't say this to you then they obviously don't feel it..Eventually you dont have to handle it because they will disappear from your life ..Then you deal with a broken heart..
2006-06-06 01:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my best friend has been with a man for roughly 4 1/2 months now and he will not say "I love you" to her, but she says he shows it. Personally it would really bother me, but I guess it just depends on the woman.
He says that he doesn't just throw those words around and he wants to be absolutely sure before he says them. I don't think I could wait though. I like to know i'm loved and if I have the feelings to say it to him, I expect to hear it back...
2006-06-06 08:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by coconut_parrothead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept it. Maybe the man does love you but is not a mushy person. I know sometimes I have a hard time saying it. But wouldnt you rather him say it when he Actually means it instead of you Forcing him to say it. Even when you get upset that he doesnt say it, that is still forcing him or trying to force him. He may feel sympathetic to you. I would just leave him be until he feels it enough to tell the world. Then is it truly genuine. I went through that for two years until I gave up and then one day he told me he loved me in the most sweetest way and tells me everytime we talk.
2006-06-06 08:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by CherrySplendor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the kind of man you are with. If he is not showy with his feelings but still you can feel that he loves you, that's more than enough. I'd rather be with a passive one, than one who is outspoken about saying I love you so often but who is not true to his words. Don't ask him to say those words to you because he might just do it to avoid arguments. Just wait for the right time to come because you will very happy to hear those words coming from his heart. If you feel like saying those words to your man, by all means, do it. Who knows, he might be awakened by your words of love and do the same to you. If not, at least, your telling him that you love him will make him realize your deep love for him and this can be the beginning of brighter tomorrows for your relationship. Smile!
2006-06-06 08:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the words "I love you," are just that -- words. I prefer that a man show me his love by his actions. I've heard the words out of a man's mouth when they've had no meaning behind them.
Look at it this way. Would you rather have a man who said, "I love you," while treating you disrespectfully? Or would you prefer the man who treats you like a lady, who helps you, who gives of himself, who makes a genuine effort in the relatioship but struggles with saying "I love you" to you?
2006-06-06 08:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to such a person for more than 20 years. Whenever I asked him why he is not saying it his answer was "Am I not with you?" or "This is not the custom in India". What kind of an answer is that? Anyhow, he is no more and the next guy will have to say it off and on. I will make sure of that.
2006-06-06 08:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by hpadbanabhan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man may not be able sometimes to say i love you but there are the silent ways of saying i love you without words his gestures and what he does and tries to do for his lady
2006-06-06 08:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told a guy that I loved him one time and he didn't say it back. Then he told me that those words mean more to him then just saying them. He said he liked me but was not in love with me. He told me he wouldn't tell me that until he meant it. I really was mad at first and then I took my time to think about what he said. I never told another guy that until I was married.
2006-06-06 09:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by les a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a lady, I find it easy to say those three little words.
But for guys I think it is difficult to say them, I don't know why. Maybe guys think it is a declaration of commitment to say them. I don't know what's wrong with guys. Maybe they have been hurt and they don't want to say them.
What I do, in my relationship is, I listen with my heart. I watch those special details in the things he does for me. He loves me, I know. He does not have to say those words.
2006-06-06 08:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by NIshzhoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you is so big! I think a guy really has to mean it to say it. then there are others who say it just to get in your pants, you have to know how to tell them apart and that comes in time and experience.
2006-06-06 08:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋