I need some help from both males and females. My spouse is sending and getting emails from two other co-works. They are sexually oriented jokes, cartoon pictures..... I would love to hear what other people think. Thanks
2006-06-06 01:07:38 · 16 answers · asked by shucibeara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We don't have problems with sex. We have never ever had a problem there or anywhere else in our marriage. It just seems to be coming from 2 certian people. We have had several of our friends come to us for help with theie marriages.
2006-06-06 01:37:01 · update #1
By the way he was not telling me about these found out by accident. Then he lied and said he lied because he didn't want to hurt me. He knows that I had a marriage that ended because of cheating.
2006-06-06 01:39:42 · update #2
Ok heres another twist she and another girl are also paging him with sexual comments on his personal pager.
2006-06-06 04:11:52 · update #3
Jokes and things are usually just fine. I am very hapy in my marriage. I love and adore my wife of 6 years and we share every thought and emotion with each other. But yes, I also share jokes (some of an adult nature) with those in the office. We have two women in the office that enjoy that type of humor so we share with them as well.
However, if these are stories of a lustful type, or simply direct emails between your husband and another woman, then there might be an issue.
First comes the question of trust. Do you trust him and does he trust you and then how much trust can you put in him? True love includes a good dose of trust. If there is a lack of trust maybe it can be fixed with a little more communication and by giving him more trust. tell him your concerns but then let him know that you feel that you want to trust him and that you respect trust and sharing. let him know that he can tell you anything that happens at work or if another woman makes an advance at him. Let him know he's not the bad guy. Also let him know that he can come to you with his needs. He may feel that he can't ask you for certain things, or that he needs some adventure or misses being wanted. Those are things you can fix and resolve inside the marriage very easily.
Most of all communication can fix almost all relationship problems. Calm, open communication.
2006-06-06 01:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all they are sending is cartoons and jokes, I wouldn't worry about it. If anything, that probably means you don't have to worry about those two particular girls: they think he's safe enough to joke about it with. Now, if there are other signs of cheating, like he's going out drinking with them and not coming home until late, or overtime that doesn't show up on the pay stub, that's another issue altogether.
2006-06-06 02:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative term here is JOKES. If you are worried about about his getting sexually oriented jokes on the internet you really need to get a grip. Most of the forwards are sexually oriented humor. If not sexual they are making fun of others ignorance.
The former is far better.
2006-06-06 04:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends! I would think it is not the best but if they are not cheating and thinking lustful thoughts then it is ok. Why dont you talk phone sex to him when he is at work or suggestive talk that way he wont look elsewhere!
2006-06-06 01:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes this can be a healthy thing, however if it tends to go on for a long time, then you may want to look into it...ask him questions....like what turns him on about the emails...maybe then you can use it to your benefit....
get an account that he dont know about and pretend to be his secret admirer. talk to him the way she talks to him and have fun with it....then set up a time to meet with him......and then
BUSTED!!!!!!!!!!!!
then dump him! lol
2006-06-06 01:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by privatelynaughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt necessarily mean that something is going on but i WOULD ask about it and find out what the deal is. Communication is the KEY.
2006-06-06 02:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl is nothing he's still with you he come s home to you is just friends it's like me and you having all kinds of joke sex jokes but our man thinking that we want to f**** each other
2006-06-06 05:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by tropica panama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jokes & cartoon pics are harmless fun. Don't pick that battle, it isn't worth it.
2006-06-06 01:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone would say.. no problem. If he is getting mails from his male friends it is ok. When its from females...... something stinks. Imagine what would he think when you gets dirty mails and pix from your male co-workers...
2006-06-06 01:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by shaun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are not comfortable with this and he should stop, why is he doing this? have him understand if he does not keep your trust, you will not be able to live with this
2006-06-06 05:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by missy isa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋