I really love this guy, together 10 years but I don't trust him 100% as he cheated before. I don't think he did again since but I don't trust him completely...What should I do???
2006-06-06 00:26:39 · 26 answers · asked by rosieeire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should sit down and talk to him about it. it might make you feel better. at the end of the day he shouldn't of cheated on you in the first place. and not until he proves to you that he won't then you will never trust him. you need to tell him that he needs to prove to you that he won't cheat on you again in order for you to trust him!!!
2006-06-06 00:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by amy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is a long time in today's life,trust needs to be earned and you don't say when this happened. It sounds like the love is still there and that alone is worth fighting for. You were hurt by a man you love in the worst way and that pain will not go. Are you holding onto this pain when you have nothing to fear anymore. You did say you don't believe he has done it since maybe talking to him or someone else will help. Maybe what happened in the past wont be let go by yourself because of fear of that pain again. If you want this marriage to work you have to talk and let go we cannot live our lives in the past for there is no future in it. And you may be in danger of forcing him to leave. You need to boost your self esteam up you took a huge knock, now you need to pick yourself back up and start to live again. For all this worrying will make you ill and your marriage will suffer. Good luck i wish you well.
2006-06-11 00:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by tracey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say u should split with him,what i think is u guys should sit and talk about it cos when there's no trust in a relationship i wonder what else is to do.naturally guys cheat and get away with it cos they know we have a very forgiving nature.since he accepted he cheated on,i think u should give him another chance and stop hurting urself by carrying unforgiveness and distrust around.free ur self and enjoy ur relationship unless there are things u are not telling us.i dont think it's right seeking people's opinion cos u're wearing the shoe u should know where it pinches u most.so dearie think about it and enjoy ur relationship cos 10yrs aint a joke neither is it 10days.
2006-06-06 00:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by aada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to trust someone who has cheated on you. Talk about it and come to a solution. Tell him how you feel. My boyfriend never cheated on me but I don't trust him fully and I told him about it. He re-assured me that he will never do it, but still I don't believe him. It takes time!! I don't know whats with men, you have to have that space of disappointment in your heart.
2006-06-06 00:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nasta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most relationships are built on trust and a understanding if that does not exist then you should try again with someone else until you you find the combination that you are will to spend a life-time enjoying. (dump him).
2006-06-06 00:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him... You really want to give up 10 years, and it is good that you love him...
2006-06-06 00:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their is no trust or 100% it's over and i wouldn't trust anyone that played up on me it is always their in the back of your mind. leave.
2006-06-06 00:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man can be trusted and so just get over that jealous in your heart and tell your imagination to stop killing you for nothing. In men you will never find an angel in that area, maybe in providing for you with material things.
2006-06-06 00:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it takes a minute to make a decision and dump someone! If you really feel that he has been loyal to you and the relationship, all you need is to build up some trust with him!
Cheers!
2006-06-06 00:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Iowa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have some trust in him as you are still with him?
If you are questioning your relationship, then I think you know the answer.
2006-06-06 00:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋