He is insisting i become bi and give him threesomes or our 17 year marriage is over. He is always on computer looking at porn. I'm not bi nor do i want to be I love him but he is tearing me apart inside. What to do?
2006-06-05 23:57:26 · 14 answers · asked by Jeannie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like a little boy asking for mommy's permission to be bad ... that way he has all the pleasure of playing with matches, but evades the responsibility.
Guy's have this way of being real cowards about ending a relationship. Instead they push their wife ... and push and push and push until she is backed into a corner with no option BUT to say "I've had it -- no more!" and then ... they go around saying "Well, SHE wanted a divorce." Once again, a little boy evading responsiblity.
If you want to keep this marriage, get some counselling. He needs to hear an outsider tell him he's being a jerk and not just you. If you'd just as soon be free to find a man who will honor and cherish you, then call his bluff. Tell him no way is a third person joining you in your marriage bed and when is initiating that divorce and moving out?
2006-06-06 00:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically he is having this desire due to watching porn..He wants to have the feeling of having two women at one time...may be check if he can also do it..I think he is being frank with u..he is sharing his desire with u..yes , u are not a bi and may feel awkward with the other female..and a bit jelous too (provided u agree to do the threesome). U can give it a try though but with a condition that u also want to try the same with two men - one of them to be your hubby....I think this sentence will quench his thirst of the porn desire....
2006-06-06 00:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get real. Get rid of this guy. He doesnt really love you. If he did he would not be pushing you to have a threesome. Im sorry. I dont want to try to please another woman. I want to please the one I love. Noone else. If you dont want to do it then dont. If he cared any at all about you then he would not want to do this. Look at it this way. He may like it and you may not. If he does, he will want to do it again. Then what are you going to do? Find you a real man that will love and care for you and will want to be with just you and no one else. Good luck
2006-06-06 00:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't bi you can't become bi. if your husband insists on ending your marriage over something as stupid as this then i say end it. you can try counseling and he may come to his senses, but the length of the marriage is no reason to put up someone being ridicules.
you kick *** for not giving into him and doing something you would really regret.
2006-06-06 00:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 07:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't respect you for who you are, which is a loving and caring wife. He should love you for who you are. If you do what he says, you will not save your marriage anyway. It will result in more complications and an almost definate break up. Perhaps you should seek marriage counselling?
2006-06-06 00:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has ask me to do the samething and i am not that way either but i always say do not knock it unless you you give ot a try so why not try it and see if you like it then if you do not like it tell him and if he still wants tell him were he can go who knows you just might enjoy it and it may make your sex even better so why not try it i am going to give it at least one try
2006-06-06 00:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't take it personal, give it a try and when you are finished with his request, tell him you also need to be satisfied with two men. He should also invite a man and try out this one also.
2006-06-06 00:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend was married for 12 yrs-same deal-she told him see ya bye. Not easy but come on. he even invited a girl over once-that was last straw for her.
good luck
2006-06-06 00:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if u were to do the same with 2 men wud he like it..and if he still says yes..he needs some pshycologist..he has a severe problem..
2006-06-06 00:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by cool_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋