we had a love marriage 2 and a half yrs. back..and before that we went around for 2 yrs...but now every now and then ..he fights and does not like my being very nice to him..i feel left out. when i ask him to go out or do things which he like to do with me before he is uninterested..
2006-06-05 23:55:11 · 15 answers · asked by cool_babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'd an serious affair before this marraige but when i met my husband i was completely out of it..now when he does not respond well, i feel like calling up my lost love as he was my very close friend too..and feel guilty after i dial his number
2006-06-06 00:04:22 · update #1
Cool Babe,
It sounds like you guys are running into a roadblock in your marriage. You both need to try something different. Something thats going to rekindle your first love fire!
Try attending a public marriage conference! It's fun, rejuvinating, exciting, passionate, and most importantly, a neccesity. We've been to one called "The Weekend to Remember". I'll never forget some of the love pointers given by Tim Downs and Dennis Rainey.
Check out the website at www.familylife.com and go to marriage conference. click on dates and you will find one in your area.
Your husband loves you. He just doesn't know how to let you know. He thinks you already know cuz he said "I do" a couple of years ago.
2006-06-06 00:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey do not do that silly mistake to recall your past by calling your x love. just think of the present. try to think on more what your husband like more in you. are you changed in some sort after marriage? is he changed after marriage? analyse the whole situation. find out what he likes in you more. make some special dish for him. buy some gifts on valentine or take any occasion to buy a simple gift, even hand made card with apinch of imagination would create a magic.
but be firm, if he still keeps arguing on any damn matter then fight back. do not show him that you are a doll and will be scared of him. common he is your husband not boyfriend. ask him what does he like most about you? tell him what do you like more about him.
try to call him by some pet name, like honey, baby,darlin, or sweety. try this out . if nothing is worth then you have to think again about him.
2006-06-06 00:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by magnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to figure out that what the problem is behind his such kind of behave, he might be in another anxiety, like his job and any thing else. One thing is fact that in a love marriage both of the people expects high from each other. Any you better examine yourself and then your hubby. Take your best time and let him take his as well as.
2006-06-06 00:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is going on. Be straight with him...tell him your feeling concerned that your marriage is failing and ask him does he want to try to salvage what you have left. If he is being a real pig then tell him to stop it or pack his bags. Are you still in love with him? Is he worth it? Maybe he is having an affair?
2006-06-06 00:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by vmmc_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he got bored with u. the one sure thing - if a person gets irritated with u all the time 100% this person doesn't like u anymore. maybe he is in love with some other woman? maybe he is unhappy in the marriage with u? but being irritated is not normal for relationships.
2006-06-05 23:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, im going though something similar, we been married 17 yrs, and up until 3 yrs, ago things were great, now i want to do things and get passionate, but she i very uninterested. try telling him how you feel. and ask him why? if he loves you he'll want to make it up to you, maybe he does not realize that's he's making you upset.
p.s. let me know.... i want to know, maybe may help me
2006-06-06 00:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by robert f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and help for your marriage. Try spicing things up for him in the bedroom ... Do things for him that he likes to do. Do all you possibly can to save this marriage... It is very important!
2006-06-06 01:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Madam,
Love is eternal. ups and downs are common thing in human life. Do not hesitate to speak with your husband. No ego please. May be your husband is upset by some other personal problems(like finance or work or his relations health). Try to understand him.
Speak with him. I strongly beleive communication is very important in (Love marriage)life. Do not bother if he ignores you. Speak. That is only way. Please do not take any hasty decision as seen as in indian movies (MY STRONG ADVICE IS DO NOT SEE INDIAN MOVIES OR INDIAN TELE SERIALS)
WITH REGARDS,
SUN.
2006-06-06 00:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by sun P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to him about how your feeling, instead of coming into a room of strangers and putting all your business out there! He doesn't know unless you tell him.
2006-06-06 00:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"For God's sake hold your tongue & let me love"
Yes, before marrige all male lover strongly feels his beloved. But after marriage his passion may loose due to some reasons. So my suggestion for you is - please try to read your husband's mind & introspect him closely. If needed be please try to use your wit to have his love. I think you to be happy with your husband.
Wish you best luck!
Shuhan
siddiqui987@yahoo.com
2006-06-06 01:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋