she was a good family friend&suddenly everyone started 2 hate her because i think she spoke about my cousin at some party&said my cuz alwayz copies her thigs even her dresscode now everyone doesn' like anymore the problem iz i really really like her she iz so nice she gives me advice about boyz shez alwyz there whenava i need her,shez married&has 2 children they all like me even her friends&everyone at home hates her so much wheneva they don't even wana let me visit her&they tell my mom that if ask 4 a visit she must say no shes also my aunt friend i think mom does even know wat 2 do now but i want 2 understand that she is like my second mom&theres nothing they can do 2 change that when i speak about her they shout at me as if she killed someone plz help me tel me wat 2 do i dont wana loose them they are like my second family even her sisters treat me like a family member.shez a mom a friend 2 me wat must i do about my family&my mom&it not my business dat she had a problem with my cuz!
2006-06-05 23:03:52 · 17 answers · asked by baby-gal 'Tumeka' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, your family is just being childish. If she is your friend and like a second mother to you then don't befriend her because your family as a problem with her. That's not fair to her and friends don't do that to each other. If I threw away friends because my family didn't like them I would be pretty much friendless. If your family are going to act that way towards anyone over something that was said so minor. Then your friend don't need them in her life. It will be their loss not hers. Good Luck!!!!
2006-06-18 09:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Just because of some incident you dont need to stop talking. But if you are going to continue to talk may be your family may not like so it is like creating tension and unnecessary fluctuations.
One way is sit and talk with your family members and try to solve the issue or else just leave the things as they are for some time.
May be after some time every one may forget what has happened.
If they love u they will surely try to understand, even if they dont give them some time.
2006-06-19 01:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and ask your family what the hell she did wrong because this is going to far! If their answer is good enough and even makes you think bad thoughts about her then don't see her. Otherwise pretend like you hate her aswell but go and visit her in secret. Get a friend to cover for you and hopefully the problem will sort itself out!!! GOODLUCK!!!
2006-06-18 14:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family has a problem with her but not you. Do not let your family opinion come inbetween u & her. It might take a little time before dust settles down, so wait for a month or so when your family forgets everything & then start convincing them that she is not really bad.
2006-06-20 02:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Juhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family that you are going to choose your friends.
If your cuz has a problem with your friend tell your cuz not to hang with you two. Don't let anyone choose your friends. Your family is your family they will get over it.
2006-06-06 07:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NO RIGHT WHAT YOUR FAMILY IS DOING. HOWEVER, SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE NOT GONNA WIN THIS FIGHT. SO JUST GO WITH IT AND IGNORE ALL THE SH*T YOU HEAR ABOUT YOUR OTHER FAMILY. YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOP LOVING THEM. YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOP TALKING TO THEM EITHER. I'M THINKING YOU PRETTY YOUNG SO YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER ON THE DOWN LOW. JUST KEEP IT SECRET. AND DON'T TELL NO ONE CUZ PEOPLE TALK AND THEN YOU'RE IN BIG TROUBLE. TAKE CARE AND DON'T LOSE HOPE.
2006-06-20 00:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, your family will change their minds soon because from reading your problem, I don't think you will find many options.
2006-06-20 05:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect. Learn from the good she has to offer and learn twice as hard from her mistakes.
2006-06-19 08:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely don't ignore her, your family should respect who you choose to be your friend realizing that everybody isn't going to agree with how they want them to. agree to disagree! compromise don't bring up cousin issues anymore.
2006-06-20 04:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spell check much? Let my guess you failed 3rd grade when they tought grammer?
2006-06-19 23:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by cboyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋