2006-06-05 22:34:00 · 13 answers · asked by brownhusband 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A) Find out why?
B) If you know why and it's a 'valid complaint', either choose to change the behavior . and if it's a 'can't change item', I would tell her respectfully Mrs XYZ, I cannot do anything to change that now, and I would hope that in time you will come to accept me.
C) Do not push, this will not win you points.
D) Do not come between your spouse and their Mother. Do what you need to do to 'function' within the family and be on your best/most polite behavior.
The rest is out of your hands. It will either work itself out to at least a tolerance, or it won't. Don't let it bug you and do NOT let it get in the middle of your marriage. She'll be 'sorrier' if it is a marriage that works and keeping parents out is a sure way of making a good go of it!
My 2 copper :) Best wishes in all of it!!
2006-06-05 23:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by replies2news 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've had two that couldn't stand me. The reason being is because I stand up for myself and say what I feel. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't disrespectful, but I would stand my ground. It caused alot of tension between me and my ex-husbands. Sometimes you can over look the hatefulness, but other times you can't. Try to talk to your husband about it. It helps if they understand how you feel.(Mine always sided with their mothers). If you and your husband can work together it will make the situation better. Good luck.
2006-06-05 23:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY to get along but if after time you can't stay on the path of good will with her then just live your life and love your husband.
Many MOMS don't like their babies to grow up or out grow them and this is usually taken out on the other spouse.
He married you for a reason . . . He loves you and if she can't see fit to respect that then it's her loss.
She doesn't have to love you, you don't have to love her but for your spouses sake both should try.
2006-06-06 00:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to honestly find out from her why she doesn't care for you, then ask other family members what could be the issue that making her blame you,it could be as simple as her regretting you for taking her daughter away in her mind...or she may 'HATE' you for ruining her daughters life by a unplanned pregnancy or convincing her to drop out of school early ,perhaps she doesn't approve of your lifestyle and just wanted her babygirl to marry a doctor or lawyer....the first person is to ask your wife...it could be what she's telling mom about you???
2006-06-06 00:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your boundries and stick to them. Your husband needs to back you up on this and let it be known that you are his wife and either she accepts you and treats you with respect or else she takes a chance of losing her son. She can't have it both ways, it's either one or the other and the decision is hers.
2006-06-06 00:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell ya about my WONDERFUL mother in law...
when i first meet my husband she liked me but as soon as we got engaged she turned in to a monster she would not come over to our house we had to go visit her and she would only talk to me when he was around.. talking bad about me to whoever would listen to her.. grrrr that woman.. anyway... she made the comment plenty of times i will not be at that wedding. she got sick i think 2 months before the wedding with a cold.. instead of going to the hospital to get better in time for the wedding the B*TCH waited til THE NIGHT BEFORE to go to the hospital
then called my husband and told him to come see her. we were decorating the hall he rushed off ... she told him how sorry she was that she could not make it.. YEAH RIGHT... anyway we got married without his mom being there she knew that we planned the whole giving flowers to our mothers during the ceramony so we used his sister instead the whole wedding reception was messed up because she told him she wanted to dance with him to a special song and this and that everything got changed so fast we were confused.. then she laughed telling everyone see i told u i would not be at that wedding. and my dam husband thinks she is wonderful she would never miss his wedding on purpise..i gave in and went to see her at the hospital 3 days after the wedding and gave her pictures and til this day she has never put them pictures in her living room. she has my husbands first wifes pictures up from there wedding but not ours. but she tells my husband that she just did not get a chance to put them up.. haha anyway i stopped going to see her when he wants to go see his mom he goes himself if i feel like kissing butt i will take him . when i told him that she never comes to my house to see us anymore he told her and she stopped here 1 time in the last year! i look at it this way i married her son NOT HER! I know she don't like me and quite frankly i don't like her much either... i take everything she does and says with a grain of salt i do not let it bother me.
2006-06-05 22:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your marriage to your husband and dont let her get you down.... Seek counseling if you need too.... Does your husband let her do this to you? why does she hate you?
2006-06-06 01:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- stay a way from her as long as I can.
- never get anthing in common with her
- keep out home most of the time
- stay at room when she's home
- run a way as fast as I can.
2006-06-05 22:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by fekri73110050 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move your family to another state,or just ignore the old bat.
2006-06-05 22:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she don't hate you you just took her baby boy and shes jealous
2006-06-06 00:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋