My mother (who is 78) has found herself a boyfriend. He is (only!) 64. Now while i am happy that she has found some company for herself this chap comes across as too nice. Mum has already mentioned moving him in with her but i am worried he has ulterior motives. I am not worried he is going to hurt her physically , but more emotionally. My mum is fairly well off whilst this chap (as far as i can make out) has no income par for a small work pension. No people i am not worried about my inheritance (we are doing ok) i am worried about my mum getting "diddled" how would other people approach this?
2006-06-05 22:30:19 · 13 answers · asked by Nice but Dim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what are you worried about? you mention money a few times so is that the nagging in the back of your head? Why don't you invite them over for dinner and get to know this chap. Its your mums life , shes in the twilight years let her have some fun! Lighten up
2006-06-05 22:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Taffy Comp Geek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping an eye on them is the right advice. Your mum may be annoyed if you are opposed to this relationship, but on the other hand you might be right. You can let her know your feelings - gently, diplomatically - but always be nice to toyboy unless you have a genuine, specific grievance. It is not wrong to be upset or concerned about money, inheritance, whatever, in a situation like this.
2006-06-06 05:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take a back seat and watch very close...i know someone of more the same age and yes the old man the bugger took her for all her money she booted him out and hes still trying to come back for more..have a word with your mum and tell her your happy that shes happy but please be careful of the money situation...especially if there out spending and coming home with new things every week
2006-06-06 05:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.at there age the age difference shouldn't be a problem...Why is it if a man has less than a woman he is under suspicion women marry and date guys with more money than they have all the time..unless you have a reason to think this guy is up to no good...how about just being happy for your mom that she has found someone to be with at this stage in her life.
2006-06-06 05:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, 64 isn't quite "only" if both, your mum and him, are free of any responsibilities. however if you're really worried, you should probably investigate into his past and see where he stands. if there's some reason to be wary, tell your mum. if not, you'll know
2006-06-06 05:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Presuming your mother still has all her marbles....she's made it to 78years old and managed to pull a "toyby". Sounds like she's more than capable of handling herself to me!
2006-06-06 05:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by jocular_japes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her life and she is old enough to make her own decisions and mistakes.Just stand by her and let her know that she is loved and surported.
2006-06-06 05:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise her that they maintain their two separate homes and only meet when they find it necessary.Not moving in together.
2006-06-06 05:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a way to go
2006-06-06 05:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on her... just keep a eye on them....
2006-06-06 05:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋