we had a good relation from past 8 months.but knw he has changed.ignores me.rudely talks.if i ask him he have no answer..he is always finding one or other fault in me.sometime about my looks.he says me u r crazy and u r sick.i cried in front of him but it doesnt matters to him .but i love him a lot. and already i ahve sacrifised myself for him.i dont knw wat to do.if i break up i feel i am flirt and i am hurting him.And if i continue my self respect is getting harm and i feel like tortured.i am suffering from past 2 months.
2006-06-05 22:24:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SERIOUSLY, GET HELP NOW AND GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. THIS IS CALLED ABUSE, AND HE IS OBVIOUSLY AN ABUSER. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH THIS. YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. GET OUT, GET HELP, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I BEEN THERE DONE THAT, AND I SPENT SIX YEARS WITH AN ABUSER. AT FIRST IT IS ONLY WORDS. THEN IT'S SLAPS, AND THEN BEATINGS. IF YOU STAY, YOU WILL END UP SERIOUSLY HURT OR DEAD. THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE OF HIM, & YOU SHOULD GET TO IT. I KNOW IT SOUNDS LAME, BUT GET COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY. FRIENDS, FAMILY, WHOEVER. I LOST SIX YEARS OF MY LIFE TO A LOSER. HE HAD ME TOTALLY CONVINCED THAT NO ONE ELSE WOULD EVER WANT ME AND I DESERVED EVERYTHING THAT I GOT. I HAD NO SELF ESTEEM AND NO SELF RESPECT. I LOST ALL MY FRIENDS AND MOST OF MY FAMILY BECAUSE OF THAT LOSER. THE ONLY THING THAT OPENED MY EYES AND SAVED MY LIFE WAS GETTING PREGNANT, AND REALIZING THAT I DID NOT WANT MY CHILD TO LIVE WITH HIM TELLING HER THAT SHE WASNT GOOD ENOUGH, & HIM BEATING ON HER & EVENTUALLY LOSING MINE OR HER OR BOTH OF OUR LIVES BECAUSE HE JUST WENT "A LITTLE TOO FAR" WITH THE BEATINGS ONE DAY. PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS ONE. GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN. THERE IS NO REASON ON EARTH FOR YOU TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE GET HELP & GET OUT. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN HELP YOURSELF, AND IN THE LONG RUN, IT WILL BE WELL WORTH IT. DON'T BE STUPID & WAIT LIKE I DID.
2006-06-18 19:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Morgan T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have already "sacrificed" yourself for him, and it means what I think it does, it explains exactly why he's changed. You obviously feel like, since you've done that, he belongs to you and are probably a lot more possessive of him. You have to understand that the significance it has for him and for you is totally different. You're probably not giving him any space, so let him go a little - give him some freedom and let him breathe. Maybe call him only once a day, or once in two days. Let him miss you. If he's worth you, he'll come running back. But if you go on the way you are, you are sure to lose him.
Also, if he's changed after this incident, it's probably best you leave him be - it won't make you unfaithful, just a little smarter than you've been all this time. No man is worth your self-respect, no matter what.
2006-06-06 05:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am so sorry girl!
I know exactly how you feel. My ex fiance did that too me. But in my case, I found out he cheated on me. He had someone else. Maybe you should talk to him. And no you need to respect yourself first!!!! Dont forget this! Stay strong! Many women go through this. But you pass first! Your safty and selfrespect! Dont let him turn you down! Stay strong tell him NO! I am fine! Stand up for yourself, alright :)
2006-06-06 05:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by MagaliChris V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've sacrificed enough. Sorry babe, it's time to move on. It'll hurt in the short term but it'll hurt a whole lot more if you continue to let him treat you like this. Think of your self respect :)
2006-06-06 05:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It is not worth losing your self worth for him. He is not into you any more. You say you don't want to hurt him, but does he care that he is hurting you? A relationship takes two and you are the only person still in yours. Sorry I know it sucks.
2006-06-18 23:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by cute_lil_blonde_star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he's probably acting like this to get you to break up with him because he's too big of a wuss to break up with you himself.
The faster you dump him, the better. Yes, it will hurt you, but you'll get over it and eventually find a guy who treats you properly.
2006-06-18 14:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its time to move on. It may hurt to begin with. But the pain will go away and you can find a new person.
2006-06-18 15:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love shouldn't be so paintul.
If you are misserable you must enjoy the feeling or you wouldn't let him treat you like this.
You are of great value and deservy a guy who will not cause such drama.
You are worth it. Keep telling yourself that. HE is playing you
2006-06-16 02:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal, you deserve better ,honestly.Never put up with a person who makes you feel inadequate.You should feel the opposite when with your man.He should make you feel like a prized gem.Dump him before he hurts your self-esteem so badly.Somewhere out there is a guy who will love you as you are,with all your ills and good points.Leaving will hurt but it will pass.good luck.
2006-06-06 05:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by blackbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you staying for? More abuse? Why?
You need to do what you need to do. Why should anyone stay with someone who makes you feel bad all the time?
There is someone good out there for you.
Take Care
2006-06-18 11:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋