Ok I just had sex with my girl who was a virgin. I am sorta dazed.
It was easy and it quickly turned into hard and rough sex. She was alot better than I expected and took a hard pounding without complaint. I guess I am wondering if she was really a virgin? and why would she lie when she knows I wouldn't care if she was a virgin or not?
I guess this whole thing was weird. I am impressed with how much I enjoyed sex with her (she was a real firecracker) but I also don't want her to be psycho and lying about things she doesn't need to lie about. I didn't notice any blood althogh that isn't proof. and she wasn't tight.
What are your opinions and am I over thinking this?
2006-06-05 22:14:55 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well I am not concerned so much whether there was blood and if she is loose or not. it is mor ethe way she handled herself that makes me wonder.
Like I said, I wouldn't care if she wasn't a virgin. but lying is a bad habit to get into and that is my real concern.
2006-06-05 22:36:13 · update #1
I think you are over thinking it. I am not sure how old you guys are, but she might just feel really comfortable with you.... You may make it really easy for her to express herself. Don't over think it, but if you are going to always think about it, then you need to talk to her about it... It really isn't worth getting in the way of your relationship.
2006-06-19 15:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell whether a girl is a virgin by having sex with her! Even a Doctor after examining can only speculate. What the Doctor looks for is if her hymen is broken(a thin piece of skin) Which is usually broken with sex but not necessarily. Also, the hymen can be broken with other physical activity such as exercise, or athletics, etc, Not to mention there are sexual toys or fingers that could do it - it may be a sexual act, but technically she would be still a virgin. She may use tampons which could also break, tear the hymen - most virgins usually use pads instead of tampons but there are exceptions, like me, I hated pads and used tampons when I was still a virgin. Also, not all girls bleed their first time, or think it hurts the first time. And some of us females are naturals, or not shy and inhibited and jump right into it if it feels good! Just as some have had plenty of sex but still don't know what to do - they may seem like a virgin but aren't. The bottom line is you won't really know - only she knows for sure! If it is not such a big deal, why are you sweating it? If she did lie, why do you suppose she did? Because of men and the names they give sexually active females! You men judge women which in turn makes women tend to lie about being a virgin, or about how much sexual experience they've had! It's a rare few women that would tell a man how many partners she has really had before him - the older and more experience the female is the less likely you are to get a honest answer about the number of men she has been with. I personally don't think a man should even ask the question. Why? Cause you men don't really want to know the truth - and if you did get the truth you wouldn't handle it well! You say it is the honesty you are concerned with - yeah right - I wasn't born yesterday, I'm 46 yrs old! Do you trust her? Does she seem honest in other areas? If so, what is the problem in trusting her in this area? If this is the only area your not trusting her - you've got issues! - and I would be more concerned about her in this relationship then you! My advice is to let it go or you are the one that is going to mess things up by being "psycho" (your word). Sounds like a little insecurity to me!
2006-06-19 22:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by HotSista 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of blood is not evidence that she was not a virgin. That being said, I have not heard of many woman that thoroughly enjoyed the sex to the extents that you say.
More likely is the fact that her telling you that she is a virgin is a fantasy for her.
Either way, don't overanalyze the situation. If you are worrying about her being truthful, I would suggest that if you find her lying about something else, it is time to look elsewhere.
2006-06-19 06:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Edward K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just need to stop thinking it. maybe she wanted to have sex so bad with that special someone that she went all out. and not been so tight. well she really anted it so her muscle were just really relax. and that's what happens. if a girl a virgin or not does not want sex she is going to be tight down there so harder for the guy. And not all virgins bleed on there first time. i know i was a virgin once. so stop tripping you found a girl that sex is great with. relax
2006-06-17 05:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 21:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think she was because my first time hurt really bad... i didnt want it to happen either. But the first time i had sex and wanted it to happen it was quit a while later so i wentback to normal down there and i went for 3 minutes before i couldnt handle it. But also im only 4'8 and he was 6'4... i like em tall but they hurt. i still say she might not have been a virgin
2006-06-18 18:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking this. I never had blood. Maybe she took the pounding thinking that is what she is suppose to do. .... Here is something else to think about; maybe she was the victim of Molestation.?. and for her SHE IS a virgin,because she just wants to forget about the Bad Deed?
2006-06-19 19:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she meant by being a virgin is that she had
never had sex with a man.People are nowadays
exposed to things like pornographic scenes,movies,
musturbations such that no one is left in the blues
on how to handle sex issues,further more,she was
prepared for it and din't want to disappoint you so
she did her best.What i don't understand is why she
wasn't tight, this can still be possible if she had
been masturbating using sex toys.the blood thing
should not worry you, it is there in young girls only.
2006-06-06 00:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by lil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you just had great sex and your pulling your hair out about whether she was a virgin or not.It doesnt really matter does it?She may have lied about being a virgin because she did not want to intimidate you.Relax,enjoy yourself,no point worrying because she isnt a virgin anymore,without doubt.
2006-06-05 22:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you is to ask her. Explain to her what you are asking others to answer. If she wasn't a virgin why did she lie? And if she was telling the truth, then you got a good woman, don't let her go.
2006-06-19 06:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by gab_b_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋