Well my husband of 4 years drinks alot! He has never hit me or are son but he gets mad an leaves an dosen't come home till late or early in the morn. An i worrie. I don't know if it is a faze? But I hate it he has little respect for me to be able to do this right? I love him an he says that he loves me!
2006-06-05 20:38:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you love each other make it work. get him help and tell him why you need him to get help. it will make the issue go away and your relationship stronger. just remember communication is the key. if it doesn't work and he can't make the change then kick him to the curb cause he's no good you probably deserve better.
2006-06-05 20:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Misch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal experience is that drinking will never do anything good for marriage or families.
While it is good to walk away and collect your thoughts when angry, there are tons of other options your husband could choose such as sitting in walmart parking lot and thinking, thinking at the park, going to his moms or families house for a visit, Just driving,, If your husband ALWAYS ends up at a bar or drinking then yes this is cause for concern.
First i'd find out where he's going when he leaves and then what he's doing while he's there?
Hate to say it but the majority of the time , someone is fooling around and his anger is stemming from his inability to deal with what he's doing.
2006-06-06 01:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband has someone on the side. If you have somewhere to go it would be best to leave but first make sure you can prove that he is cheating. If you can prove that than you have a reason to file for divorce, if he doesn't agree to it.
2006-06-05 20:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by deezee4sheezee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no use in talking or trying anything untill he stops drinking. some people do not drink at all. can u believe it? but they can. so he can go and get some medical treatment and after he stops drinking u might consider talking to him. before that it is useless. because he is mentally ill. u do not sit and discuss stuff with insane person, do u? so alchoholism is the same mental illness.
2006-06-05 20:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to seek help for his problem. Perhaps he'd consider going to an AA meeting. Or at very least get an opinion by speaking with his doc
2006-06-05 20:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay and love him where he is at... Seek counseling and even marriage counseling. See if he would be willing to go to AA? You both need help here for sure.
2006-06-06 00:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question is what made him drinking a lot? another women, job, money, family?
since he is not absusive, may b u should stay and wait. try to explain that alcohol is not an answer of his problem.
2006-06-05 20:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, one day he will hit you or your son.
2006-06-05 20:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Stinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your situation. Try to leave him for a while and see what happen next, if he can change or not.. if he still does it, then leave him..
2006-06-05 20:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkling pearl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id leave and if he is a real man he will take responsibilites of a hubby and a dad!
2006-06-05 20:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋