i am a 17 year old guy, i have a huge crush on a guy that lives across the street and he is 16. i dont know him that well and i dont know if he is gay but he kinda drags his voice like most gay people, i live in a town where being gay is not accepted, all of my close friends know and a few other people but my parents and most other people dont know. he doesnt have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and he always seems to be home. my type are not accepted by most people and it would be really embarrassing for both of us if i asked him and he isn't and then. .. well....basically... what should i do???
2006-06-05 19:35:34 · 15 answers · asked by §ЕЖ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
all guys have a time when they feel like they have to approach a girl, so if u keep coming out and maybe doing something that might provoke a guy from far away he might think he wants to approach u, if that happens then hes not gay! also if he has that kind of voice, well my cousin has the same kind of voice, but i know he has a girlfriend so i supposed hes not gay. it might just be his style or something, but yea, also remember, some guys find it hard to go talk to their neightbor girl, like me lol, because maybe shes inside all the time or maybe shes wit her friends, and maybe hes a lil bit shy, so i think u should know wat to do, maybe wait for him to approach u, or u do it! but if u want to wait till he does it, maybe be by urself, people r shy sometimes ok?? peace!
2006-06-05 19:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by membrane killa :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I'm not a guy ,but I thought maybe a different input might help. I am a 48 years old female divorced with a 24 year old daughter I 've been living with my boyfriend for 18 years. We all three of us are in any way prejudice with race creed color and so on......I love gay people(not being rude I hope)
I think that there is true honesty in gay relationships as compared to some of us in heterosexual relationships(as well as me) I would think the thing to do is just hang out regular like- If you see him outside walk over and say"Whats Up" next time say" whats doin wanna hang 4 a minute I gotta get away" "wanna ride(A BIKE) for a minute"get in with him. If you think hes (with ya } right(which I hope for you) he will catch on No need to be straight up and forward just in case he isn't Cause I know that would be the utmost embarrassment and it will go around the school in a FLASH I wish you Luck But remember this might be the first But you are tooooo YOUNG for it to be your last I would love 4 u to keep me in touch Cat1313
2006-06-05 20:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sugest you to become friends firstly, to know each other and talk more (find some common point of view towards life). And then, after you feel that you can talk wide bring in discussion the homosexual theme and see what he thinks about that. You can share your "secret" if you trust in him and you don't feel inhibit. All this must be with small steps but surely.
And about " i live in a town where being gay is not accepted" doesn't matter that....we all have the same rights beeing humans. They don't have the right to treat you different if they discover that you have other sexual orientation. Don't feel renegade because you are not different atall.
Good luck!!!
2006-06-05 19:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Cornflake_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just appraoch him as a friend. Not gay not a lover just a friend get to know him better than once you know him a little ask him if he is gay. I would not tell him that you were gay right off the bat either just wait and be his friend first. All good relationships should start with a strong friendship first and hey if he is not gay then perhaps you will have another good friend to add to your collection.
2006-06-05 19:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by tysha30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had some good advice for you. It's always hard to put yourself out there when you don't know how the other person feels about you or how they might react. But i think your situation is especially difficult because you could be risking even a possible violent reaction if things don't go well.
But mostly i wanted to tell you that I'm sorry you have to deal with ignorant people like that "matt damon" who answered first.
Good luck to you with your neighbor and peace be with you!!!
2006-06-05 19:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I don't really know how to help you but I just want to address people's responses towards your question. Personally I do not believe that anyone can ever be truly homosexual but those are my convictions...they do not have to be yours.
In my culture where I'm from (South Africa) we say sorry to someone whose been wronged or to whom something sad has happened, I mean it could be anything, like losing your favourite pen or it could be said to someone whose just been involved in a car accident. It's just a means by which one person tries to communicate their "sympathy" (for lack of a better word) for someone. The English language, in its vocabulary, does not have the word we use to convey this so we use the English word "sorry" instead because it comes closest .
In terms of the responses you have received I just want to convey that same compassion to you. I apologise to you for how horrible people have been to you. We might not all agree on how other people decide to live their lives but that's certainly no reason to be cruel.
2006-06-05 20:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just get to know him better? He's new to the neighborhood? Bring him a welcome gift. Bake cupcakes, invite him to a party... just go and talk to him.
WHatever you do, DO NOT ASSUME HE IS GAY just based on how he speaks! Geezz... That's very pigheaded. And, even if he is gay, he could prolly use a friend, right? Be that friend. Who kows what it could turn into? And, if he is gay and you are a girl, don't try and fix him, ok? You can't! Oops, didn;'t finish reading the rest of your ?. Still, go over there and make nice...
2006-06-05 19:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by annebananalolitachiquita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know you need to communicate with him that you are interested. I think your parents have a right to know as well. Im not gay but it is 2006 you should not have to live a lie.
2006-06-05 19:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best way to find out would be to get to know him better.go over one day and introduce yourself and see if he would like to go for pizza and see what his reply would be.if he says yes and you go then talk in passing and say something to the effect about someone you see in there like a woman for instance..comment on here attire or a guy ..say something about his shirt.If hes into style you might have something.but first thing you need to do is be a Friend like on "Will and Grace" if you have ever seen the show.Good luck..!
2006-06-05 19:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by dana_hillman_16661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know what your going through b\c I am gay. Well maybe you should just ask him.If he says no just tell I was just wandering...
P.S. As for Matt Damon you don't ever criticize someone for being gay.Your NOT God so u have no right to judge So I think you need to apologize
2006-06-05 19:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by jscifres02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋