awhile back, my husband and i were at a large family party. there was lots of drinking going on. we got back to the hotel and my husband was very incoherent. i was trying to make him sit up because he was passing out and had already thrown up a ton. he kicked me in the head four times really fast. i freaked out and left the room. about four years ago, he had been drinking and threatened me, but did not actually follow through. but after the kicking incident, he sat up and viciously said nobody would believe me anyway. is this something i should take seriouly? he is usually pretty decent. he does'nt drink that often.
2006-06-05 19:26:58 · 16 answers · asked by vbg2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i tried to give him the benefit of the doubt because this is not his usual behavior. but there is something about this that deeply disturbs me.
2006-06-05 19:32:52 · update #1
i left the hotel room because i was afraid he was going to punch me. he is a very big man. before i met him, he got in a few very serious bar brawls that led him to jail and the others seriously injured. but this was years ago. i am not much of a drinker. so he doesn't drink that often now. but he has been becoming emotionally unavailable and very verbal with me recently.
2006-06-05 19:54:18 · update #2
honey why are you still there you should have been gone if he'll do something like that when he is drunk who is to say he want do it any other time. my friend always says a drunk mans words is a sober mans thoughts so just remember that.
2006-06-05 19:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and suffer the pain and possible death this jerk is definitely going to rain upon you! You deserve better..making wrong choices seem to repeat in your life..A guy that did time for assault or attempted murder is not the most stable choice for any relationship and absolutely NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL!! As others have said..it will only get MUCH WORSE...leave him immediately..if needed have the police escort you to the house so you can pack your things and leave him...wouldn't hurt getting a Restraining Order doesn't stop him from coming around but can get him jailed overnight...there are womens shelters in every county...call the abuse hotline and stay in one til you figure what you need to do to get AWAY from your situation..
Good luck...remember a stranger told you YOU DESERVE BETTER and you really do!!!
2006-06-08 05:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that he only does things to you when he is really really drunk, you've made no metion otherwise. I think rather then leaving him, next time you go set a limit on him as to how much he is allowed to drink, when he reaches that limit it's time to go home. If he doesn't agree then you have a serious talk about leaving, He is putting you in dager with his bad drinking habits. He may just kill you one day in a drunken stupor....
2006-06-06 02:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and go to a safe house. You need to protect yourself and not be abused anymore. I know this is easier said then done but you dont want him to do this anymore and end up being almost killed or killed because of it... Seek help and counseling and find safety! He also needs AA and anger management as well!
2006-06-06 07:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should leave him or leave him for a while so he can straighten out his priorities. There's no reason for such stuff. Frirst of all, if he loved you, he wouldn't drink in the first place and second, he wouldn't hurt you in anyway no matter what the case is. You should really think about this. Well, hope i could help. ~*BYE*~
2006-06-06 02:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anistasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like u are between a rock and a hard place.Do u love him?get help for him,if not drop kick him off the porch while he is drunk next time and leave him there over nite.don't stay in a psychical or mental abuse relationship.Sorry its just the truth.
2006-06-06 03:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by very concerned55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u r wrong u not live him because u told that he is usually pretty decent plz tell him about that discuss the matter with him i am confidently telling u he will be feel sorry.
2006-06-06 02:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by piyush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said nobody would believe me anyway, abuse may be forming. Abuse usually starts when the relationship gets old. You may be seeing the real him!
2006-06-06 02:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not leave him. give one more chance.
in the mean time take him to doctor and take advice from doctor about how to get rid of his drinking habits.
2006-06-06 02:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by NEW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma am hubby needs help and you maybe the only one who can do that, try to get him to a doctor...
2006-06-06 02:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋