I talked to him this past weekend and told him how i feel and his reply was i'm not doing that and yes i do love you baby! We have been married for 14 1/2 yrs and have 4 children. He works nights and stays tired and stressed. I do all i can for him to make his day better. I don't ask him to do anything for the kids, etc. I massage his feet and back for him on the weekends and we have sex daily but he doesn't give me the respect i feel i deserve. I know sometimes you can get caught up in daily life and forget and don't acknowledge that you are doing something but he seems so short tempered with me and the kids lately and just yells all the time. Please someone tell me what i can do or say to try to make him understand how he is making me feel so unworthy! He works hard for us but i just want to scream, I NEED ATTENTION OTHER THAN SEX!!!
2006-06-05 19:24:09 · 7 answers · asked by Mondell&Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's just stressed out. My husband goes through times like that, usually when the bills are due. He also tends to take it out on me, to which I promptly reply "don't take your frustation out on me because I didn't do a damn thing". Just give him time. It will all be ok, God willing.
2006-06-05 20:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him go to a doctor and get on medication for stress... Work can cause this and my husband went through this about a year ago and it made him grumpy and miserable. He now is on medication and is a much better person for it. When he gets home give him a body massage and just spend time with him resting and doing things with him that he likes to do. Be his companion and if he even just leaves to get gas go with him for the ride. When he is not working do fun things with him like date and stuff. Make him feel special and love and dont nag and pester him. Treat him the way you would want to be treated. Again have him see a doctor for his stress he may even need counseling!
2006-06-06 00:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u and him need a vacation time alone,and if that doesn't help,he maybe cheating and i would be checking things out!,There is no reason for a man the yell and be stressed out all the time.And u are not a slave either have him massage ur feet and take u out to dinner,u have enough with 4 kids.And he needs to help with them also not just u.If not comfront him face to face and tell him u have had it and want out,to find someone who will appreciate u better.
2006-06-05 20:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by very concerned55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, calm down. It could be worse, like what if your husband was a cheater, or gambling or drank away his paycheck. Obviously, he's overstressed at work and maybe what he needs more than daily sex, foot massages and trying to get him to understand YOU would be to ask him how his day went and really, really LISTEN. Just you and him. He needs attention about his work from you, and the less he gets of your simple listening skills to whatever he needs to talk about is the key, I feel. And the more you try to put the spotlight on your needs right now, you will continue to deal with a very angry, crabby husband. Good luck to you both.
2006-06-05 19:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you do all you can to make his day better..
you dont ask him to do anything for the kids
you massage his back and feet
you have sex daily
How long has he been taking you for granted????? also.. the short - temperedness with you and the kids is a sign that something far worse then his job is stressing him out..
Get someone to watch the kids on one of his rare days off and lay it all down for him.. you might ask him if he wants to trade all the things you've done for him for alot of legal expenses and child support. Im sure THAT will get his attention
2006-06-05 20:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dear Blabby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can say only this: i disagree with the first answerer totally. i always do everything what is good for me. screw the rest. so dear, u re the human being, i understand your hubby is tired at work. so what? u re not his slave. if i were u i would yell at him as hell after he short tempered me or children and told him stricktly that he acts nicely. if he is tired and stressed he might go to sleep untill he is refreshed. but no tiredness is giving him the right to be short tempered with his family. and also, even if he is tired at work i think some of house work wouldn't kill him. by doing everything for him u show that u re a slave and nobody cares about how slaves feel - slaves are for work. so stop acting quiet, rebell and show u deserve respect. well, probably u won't anyway. good luck anyway
2006-06-05 19:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe working and trying to keep you secure by having sex daily is exhausting him.
Many women who are truely taken for granted might laugh at your question. . .
Daily sex?
Husband comes home from work?
Sounds like he might need some help financially sometimes from you but doesn't want to say that for MANLY reasons so he's trying to do it all himself.
Give him a break !
You probably also ask alot . . . Honey what's the matter?
Give him some time for himself.
2006-06-06 01:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋