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what would you think if you husband and you got into a fight and he left for several hours didnt say where he was or where he was going when he left .but when he came back he was all sweaty .he went and cleaned his face and then got into bed when i went to fool around he fought me about it for a while and then gave in so i went ahead and went to do our thing and his private area smelled like soap and it just smelled very clean for a guy who was cover in sweat.later on i found out he went to the park with some girl from work and claims all they did is talk cause he needed to vent.Im having a hard time believing him cause also those poems are one that he wrote then the other she wrote so i dont knwo what to think please help

Answer 1

WELL I THINK THAT HIS PRIVATE PARTS SMELLING LIKE SOAP WHILE THE REST OF HIS BODY IS SWEATY IS DEFINITELY A RED FLAG. WHY WOULD HE FIGHT YOU ON HAVING SEX BECAUSE HE JUST FINISHED. HE SHOULD NOT HAVE TO GO TO THE PARK WITH ANOTHER WOMAN TO VENT ABOUT AN ARGUMENT THAT HE AND HIS WIFE HAD SO TO ME ITS LIKE HE TURNED TO HER. WHY WOULD HE BE WRITING OR RECEIVING POEMS FROM ANOTHER WOMAN. THE ONLY WOMAN HE NEEDS TO BE WRITING TO IS YOU. I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH THIS OTHER WOMAN AND ASK HER WHAT SHE HAS GOING ON WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND WHY IS SHE GOING TO THE PARK WITH YOUR HUSBAND. I THINK THAT THERE IS MORE GOING ON SO YOU NEED TO CHECK INTO IT. I THINK THAT HE IS CHEATING MAYBE YOU SHOULD JUST FOLLOW HIM.

Answer 2

So you're saying the park is right next door which is how he returned sweaty...because I jog 3 days a week...walk 4 blocks to cool down and I'm pretty dry by the time I walk in the door.

Usually it's exercise sweat...so i don't smell funky.

When a man is fooling around with a woman in a park, does he have access to a shower in that park...a shower with soap? Then why not a towel to dry off?

So you had a fight that made him angry enough to take a walk.
I wouldn't say he is cheating on you now...
but you sure are setting the stage for him to do so in the future.

You two need a better form of communication besides yelling and escalating emotions to a point of blow out and walk away.

There are all kinds of programs out there to look in to through your community or the church.

When you discuss things, try not to make it a personal attack or place blame.

Stick with the facts.

Choose your discussion time when you know you'll have his attention - the middle of a football game is probably not the best time to start harping about him leaving the seat up.

Work towards an end that satisfys you both - where you feel it's not only a fair solution...but both of you win.

You don't have to raise your voice to be heard.

Answer 3

Wow you didnt say anything about the poems you just sort of threw them in there as if the answerer already knew about them...now you had a fight with your husband and he left and came back sweaty and then while haveing sex his penis was smelling of soap...it is entirely possible for man to be sweaty and his penis to remain clean. Now while he was out he went to the park with a girl to talk...well you have allot of circumstantial evidence nothing really that could prove anything I cannot comment on the poems because you really didnt explain but I must admit it sounds suspicious...were the poems from the girl he was in the park with? Were they romantic?From what you say you may have a reason to be suspicious but nothing more you need to work out whatever problem you had that caused the arguement in the first place and than you need to work on communication so that the two of you can work things out better.l perhaps marriage counseling but definitely you need to comunicate with him and work out your problems or things will get worse instead of better.

Answer 4

It sounds to me your husband did a bit more than talk to this girl. You need to talk to him about this girl, ask him how long they've been friends and why he needed to vent to her instead of talk to you. Look for any signs that he could be lying or trying to cover something up. Don't just flat out confront him. He will deny it and try to make you feel bad for not trusting him, believe me I've dealt with cheaters before. If you talked to him and you don't trust that he's being honest with you, invite the girl over for a girls night and talk, you'll be surprised at how subtle she can be while talking about your husband. Or you could talk to someone he works with that you trust. Just tell them your husband has been acting a little weird lately and you wondered if he was acting different at work too, and if he was acting weird around any of the other employees. Don't let on that you suspect something, just act casual, like you're just naturally concerned about your husband.

Good luck, I know it seems hard, but diving head first into an argument isn't going to solve anything, it's just going to make it worse. Please IM me if you need someone to talk to, I always have an open ear.

Answer 5

i would say that sounds really suspicious. he left to go "talk" to another woman? that does not sound right. even if it was a friend of his, or a co-worker. my opinion would be he cheated and cleaned up. if he is writing poems and she is responding to them, then there is defiantly something up. i would leave, plain and simple. i don't know why some guys think they can have it both ways and get away with it.

Answer 6

I don't know what to say to that. Perhaps he was sweaty and gave the undercarriage a lil wash before bed. Perhaps he did just go talk to his friend, but you are right to suspect something I guess. You need to talk to him about this I guess.

Answer 7

Sounds like you already know what he's doing and you want someone to convince you he's not ?

Your question should be how do you walk away when you know your husband is cheating?

Sorry about your situation, it hurts but if he loved you he wouldn't cheat on you.

Answer 8

Why are u asking it. You know the answer. are do u want to hear it from someone? Leave his sorry ***. HE CHEATING ON YOU. Sorry to tell you, but you know it. Move on sweetie you deserve better. I would have left and not even bother to ask this questions.

Answer 9

This is what happened...He went to call home girl asked her if they could talk...went to the park and got it on..

Answer 10

I feel he was cheating but that is just a feeling. Talk to him and see wht he has to say. Follow him one night or have a pi watch him and see what happens.