I have a problem...?

Question

should I go for girls with beautiful face or a good heart. I myslef is an average looking guy....but am in confusuin.

Answer 1

go for the good heart...the face is fleeting, the heart remains forever

Answer 2

Both with fade with the years. Her face will age. Her heart will age. You will age. There is no confusion there. You need to seize the moment, each moment, and learn from your experiences. Beautiful women are not necessarily cold hearted. Good hearted women can be beautiful. But, the assumption here is that you are secure enough to approach any one you want. Are you? Not everybody is. In surveys, women almost always write that they are turned on by confidence. Find yours. Stop listening to your parents and talk to strangers. Every new friendship starts with two strangers. Once you have found someone you like decide if you are ready to seal the deal. If not move on. It's not right to keep another person's hopes up. You won't change for the better and neither will they. The two of you will get smarter, busier, and less interested in one another. You will have to remind yourself why you ever started this relationship, and the answer better be more than a pretty face or a good heart. A pretty face is like winning the spelling bee, it was great while it lasted, but; what has it done for you lately. A good heart is like good piece of bottom land, great for growing things, but; easily ruined when left unattended. Like I said both will age as will you. You will hit your forties having plateaued at work, having purchased the house of your dreams, and the car of dreams, and reached the point at which you will ask yourself "What next?" They call it the mid-life crisis. If you don't have more between you and your wife than a feeling that she was once the object of your affection then she will become that "What next?" and you can kiss that car and that house and maybe even that job goodbye. Focus on caring, on honesty and on trust. Be the best person you think you can be and hope that she will do the same. If things go well you won't be sorry. If they don't, it was probably due to a lie, or some distrust, or a lack of caring. It may be her fault, it may be yours, it will definitely scar you both, but it won't kill you unless you let it. Pick the girl who picks you back and see if that works.

Answer 3

Depends what you want. Short term sex, one night stands, nothing of any depth.... or are you looking for a life long love. There's no key from the outward appearances. Thing is all end up the same way eventually. Old, bent over, wrinkly, white hair. And the ones who try to avoid that with a life long obsession/addiction to plastic surgery just end up looking like some kinda freakish alien science experiments. Natural is always the way to go.

In terms of the kind of beauty you want, always go for the heart. It may not exclude a physically beautiful girl but just remember that it only takes one split second for that outward beauty to vanish in a fire or a car accident, so don't put any confidence in it.

When you think back through history, what women have the kind of beauty that moves the heart. Mother Theresa was an incredibly beautiful woman. Unfortunately she was already married to God, but you know what I mean.

Any way, hope that helps.

Answer 4

Go for looks bro, the heart will only lead to the hopes of happiness and the search for happiness will cause the most pain.

I'll also supply an answer to which there was no question.... Get some plastic surgery, lose the cardigan, and move out of your grandparent's basement.

*Note: Okay, I've had to revise my answer in light of all these jackasses telling you that a good heart will last forever. Listen to me. A good heart may be sweet and all, but don't listen to these people. Will a heart ever wear hot red lipstick and look up at you smiling while it's giving you head? No! I don't think so! And another fact: The heart grows colder with time!

Answer 5

Real beauty is within, what good would it do you to have a very beautiful person, but shallow by your side?
Now if you have an average person, who is not a WOW !! but just pretty, and is in love with humanity and nature, is sympathetic and loyal, has a good humor and is faithful ...that average person becomes a WOW !! plus 10 more points.

Follow your heart. You will eventually find a girl who to you will be beautiful on the outside and wonderful in the inside, dont look for her, just be yourself , she will find you.

Answer 6

You will naturally be drawn towards those you find attractive. There is usually a physical dialogue that will show you if they are also attracted to you. Mutual attraction is important if you are seeking a romantic relationship. That is what draws two people together.

That's not where it stops... and that will fall to the wayside.
How you feel being with the girl, enjoying her company, her "heart", personality, etc. will be the glue that binds.
Ultimately, liking/loving the person is most important.

But, both play a role in romance... and it can become very complicated.

Perhaps you should not be in such pursuit, and just allow your heart to show you the path, never forcing or rushing a relationship. Approach people as potential friends, and enjoy the company of those you like.
Sounds like your'e still young, and your whole life is ahead of you.

Answer 7

If a girl has a beautiful face, truly beautful, she is probably radiating serenity and happiness, and has a good heart as well. Learn to see that, and you will do well. A well-formed face is a different matter. That can be a ticket to deception, as she knows that there are many who cannot tell her heart because they are distracted by her aesthetics. If you can't tell either, just go for the good heart.

Answer 8

For me, your confusion over this is a good sign of your character. If it didn't matter to you, you would have no dilemma...which says you have a depth of soul about you....so would someone which only satisfies your 'eye' make you truly happy? It is true that real beauty comes from inside...a beautiful woman which has no character or morals, is not a beautiful woman...and begins to appear less attractive . A woman which is less physically attractive but is beautiful on the inside...will become more attractive to you physically....so what is on the inside can taint the exterior. Follow your heart when it comes to a relationship...it will lead you fairly.

Answer 9

dont be in a hurry when u r in confusion! beauty is just skin deep and it is the good heart that counts.moreover when u r average looking then having a beautiful wife might add to ur confusion(there are 100 novels on this subject).whether beautiful or average in appearance, look for a like minded girl and that leaves u both happy! good luck.

Answer 10

Satan uses beautiful faces to steal a person's faith. Go for the good heart. The good hearted woman will make a wonderful wife. If you desire children, the good hearteed woman will make a wonder mother. The pretty face is always concerned about herself. She is vain and will never make a good wife or mother. She we neglect you and everyone around her for the sake of keepingherself beautiful. She will noit be beautiful for you, but for herself only. A woman that is filled with pride is the devil's own.

Answer 11

A beautiful face is always noticed, a gentle heart’s not. Nevertheless, Sometimes people tend to fool us, by acting the opposite way they really are. I truly suggest you not to “seek” any of these characteristics; otherwise you’re “tagging” a person with an expectation, so you’ll have 50% probabilities of being disappointed. Don’t have prior expectations when it comes to meet new people. Treat the girls as common, normal friends. Follow your instincts and –really- your heart will tell you clearly which the chosen one is.