I hear of so many couples that get married just because they are pregnant and than end up getting a divorce soon after. Are there really that many legal benefits for the baby? If they were worried about religious reasons don't they think other people know they did it before marriage anyway? Aren't the consequences of divorce more harmful to the child in the long run? Does it really make a difference if they are already a good team and equally take care of the child and each other?
2006-06-05 18:37:53 · 14 answers · asked by ashez 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am currently 6 months pregnant and everyone is presurring me to get married. I know we are too young to get married but it's not like I want to leave him or anything. We live together and take good care of each other I just don't think it's a good idea to rush it just because I am having his child..
2006-06-05 18:40:06 · update #1
I didn't try and "trap" him. It just happened. We already live together and both provide for each other and the baby. I don't see how this matters.
2006-06-05 18:45:21 · update #2
Being pregnant isn't good enough reason to get married...and more and more women are discovering that it's not just about religion, readiness or what others have to say...it is just a matter of choice.
Be proud of the new life God has blessed you with because not all female specie have the capacity for it. You are about to fall in love forever!
2006-06-05 18:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by foreverblue2006 1 · 7⤊ 4⤋
Because they feel it is the right and moral thing to do... Does not make it right though. I feel that this is not a reason to get married if there is not love and commitment in your heart for the other person dont do it. Yes the consequences of divorce and seeing parents not happy in marriage is way more devastating to a child then just not getting married because someone is pregnant. Marriage should be based on just more then just a child. When the child is up and gone and the couple married just because a child was on the way the marriage would fall apart anyway.
2006-06-06 00:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they do it because they truly want whats best for the baby. Love makes you do crazy things and even if the parents-to-be arent "in love" they are in love with their baby already. They want to have a good environment for the baby to grow up in. Yes, divorce is painful and hard on kids (id know, my parents have been divorced since before i was 1), but honestly, i dont think the thought of them actually getting a divorce crossed their minds. When you "meet the man of your dreams" or at least think you have, do you really think divorce? no, that cant happen to YOU! of course not! they dont consider all of the consequences! And thats basically the reason. Hope this answers your question!
I think that it is important not to be rushed. I think that your decision to wait is the right one. You should never into anything! Especially not something as permanent and consequencial as marriage is. You need some time after the pregnancy and after you have seddled (somewhat) back in, to think everything over. GO through the pros and cons of getting married. Whats best for the kid? How will you feel about your decision in the future? THe simple but important questions make all the difference. Good luck with your decision!
Also, I want to say congratulations! i dont think that women "scuk the men into marriage" by getting pregnant. Like you said "it just happens" and it is both the man and womens choice! so good luck with your baby!
2006-06-05 18:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like seeing people get married just because they have a baby together.
My cousin got pregnant when she was 15, married at 16, had the second one at 17, and was divorced when she was 18. I don't think her girls ever knew their dad, and they both grew up to be messed up adults.
Here's one with results yet to be seen, but I don't agree with it: My mother in law presured my brother in law to marry his baby's mother. The baby was well over a year old when they got married, and I'll be very surprised if they last.
Get married only if you want to. You need to think about yourself and your child. Do what's best for the two of you. If the baby's daddy is going to hang around..hey! Bonus!
2006-06-05 18:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My assumption is they were "loving" each other and at least one of the persons really didn't care if a baby happened or not (otherwise more precautions would have been taken). So why not marry? Don't assume that all these marriages end in divorce...they don't. Why are you playing house, why don't you really grow up. I really hate girls who shack up and woman who say "I am a single mother" The truth is .. you are either you are married, divorced, widowed or just a s*l*u*t.
2006-06-05 18:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a sensible POV, so much ladies who've performed it is going to inform you that it'S VERY complex and annoying to be a unmarried mom. Trying to maintain down a role AND maintain the demands of an child (in no way brain buying childcare on best of the whole lot else you ought to purchase) is not handy. (Are YOU well with getting up two-three instances a night time, then going to paintings, then coming residence and doing home tasks AND taking care of/gambling with/tending/loving your youngster earlier than falling into mattress to do it in every single place once more?) But if you're making a gigantic earnings and feature bendy paintings hours and your 'buddy' is on board with you -- do what feels correct to you. (You'll regularly additionally wish to seek advice a attorney to be certain that your rights are included so far as little one aid, custody, and different problems. What occurs in case your 'buddy' is furnished a incredible task in Singapore .. or reveals anybody he DOES wish to marry and feature kids with?)
2016-09-08 21:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples decide 2 settle down after an unplanned pregnancy coz they dont want 2 have an illegitimate child.. they normall think that society always ridicule illegitimate children..
kids bully another kid 4 not having a father & some things like that..
2d point that they fail 2 think & consider if they're already ready 4 such a commitment & if they're really inluv w/each other..
that's y most divorce happens 4 this reason
2006-06-05 19:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but it makes me sick. I think that these women purposely get pregnant to trap the man into marriage. Then they are miserable in a rushed marriage
2006-06-05 18:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because the "parents" love each other but they are un prepared for a child. I dont think they like abortion. And if they dont get married before the child is born then it will be bastard child.
2006-06-05 18:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Timmy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually marriage is just a name given to a relationship wht i feel . but this also true today people soon end up with getting divorces. but todays world it hardly matters if u r married or not !!! so its all u r thinking and undetrstandeing tht matters !!!
2006-06-05 21:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by shreys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋