When we were studying i used to make fun of all girls (especially her), act as if i didn't like her, played pranks on her etc. just to show my friends that i was a cool guy (what a fool i was). We used to share the same bench and i was just like "don't touch me, stay away". We changed schools and i didn't see her since 8th std. and only then did i realise how much i liked her. After about six years i met her once (only once) and that day all i could say to her was that i was sorry for my bad behaviour in school and that i had been asking about her to all my friends and was hoping to see her. I also wanted to say to her that i really liked her but i didn't know what she would say, so i just said bye and we parted. Since then i haven't seen her. i want to see her and talk to her but i just stop when i think that she is so beautiful, talented and so good, why should a fool and a loser like me waste her time. Now i don't even know whether she lives there or not. What should i do? help me!!
2006-06-05 18:21:05 · 6 answers · asked by jg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be honest with her, take the chance, you don't seem to run into her often, so if she rejects you, at least you don't have to see her all the time. We've all been in your position at least once, so believe me, if that makes you a loser, then there are a lot bigger losers out there.
I wish you the best.
2006-06-05 18:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust me dont tell her just yet. Hers a story that explains why.
I'd like to tell you a story...
It's a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don't be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive woman... but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her... and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like "You are so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in my life"... but nothing ever progressed past the "friendship" stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her... and once she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.
But something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn't acting like a woman that was "falling in love". She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT, that she would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he was felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said "Thank you... I really mean that... but I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're too important to me...".
This only confused the man more.
He didn't know how to take it...
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long- term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn't go on like this anymore... he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her... so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long, long letter... again confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn't reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and said "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have to go"... and hung up...
...but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened.
THE END
OK, I'm back.
Now, wasn't that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writing romance novels...
Now, let's talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I'm not talking about FICTION here.
I'm talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story resonate for most men?
Because we've all been there in one way or another... at one time or another... and many of us have been there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of...
Stories and situations like this one really FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.
In this particular situation I think there is a solution.
And it lies in understanding a secret that women know but MEN DON'T.
And that secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON'T WORK, they actually make things WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a man does to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT like him. They make her run.
All those great intentions and emotional dedication actual cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away.
It sucks.
2006-06-06 01:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by b-buddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to act immediately. if this is something you truly want and it sounds like it is the only thing that is holding you back is fear. Dont think about all the what ifs just say what you know to be true. first step is to find out if shes still at the address. then go there and ask her out. if you dont do anything you will never no. just think it and do it. no negative thorts allowed. good luck
2006-06-06 01:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by DOLLYl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in contact with her and just tell her the truth about how you feel. If you can, try to find out some info on her - like if she's seeing someone - because you don't want to proclaim your love for her if she's already got a bf.
2006-06-06 01:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really teased her then see might be turned off.
there was this boy named drew and i liked him.but he would tease and act all disgusted when i got 1 foot away from him.later his friend told me he liked me,then drew denied it,so i acted like eeeeewwww.
but after all the teasing i just got turned off.if i could do it over i would ask him why he was always teasing.
all i can say is really try to get in contact with her and let her know that your sincer about what u did
2006-06-06 01:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Nana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd totally go for her, you'll never know unless you try it! Then you won't always be left wondering "what would have really happened!" Besides, you don't have her now, what do you have to lose? Good luck!
2006-06-06 01:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋